Honeymoon fund?

It's never polite to ask guests for money or to pay for your wedding. However your guests will never tell you that they offended.
Have the honeymoon you can afford from your own and save up for a bigger trip later.

I would likely use it for my wedding, FH and I have been together for 6 years, unless we suddenly have a toaster, coffeemaker and blender that fall apart I don't see me using a registry.

View Quoted Comment It’s the same with us we have been together for 6 years we have everything. I’m having a hard time finding things to put on a registry!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the viewpoint! I wasn’t planning to at first but my friend did it and got $600 they used as play money on her honeymoon. She suggested I use one as well but was wondering if more people had the same point of view as you. Thank you for leaving a comment!

Having a honeymoon fund isn’t tacky. A lot of couples do rem

You can add fun stuff to the registry. Camping, grilling, card games, etc. Doesn't have to be strictly appliances.

View Quoted Comment That’s a great idea! Thank you! 😁

We didn't have a honeymoon registry and I personally would never contribute to one. I'm going to give you a cash gift anyway, why should I pay a third party just to give it to you?

How people respond to a Honeymoon Fund, or other "cash" fund is going to vary, so whether people think it is "tacky" or not is going to depend. If you have a fair number of more traditional guests, then the odds are good at least some of them will subscribe to the belief that one never directly asks for money and they are more likely to be offended by a honeyfund. However, if you don't have any registry (or only have a small registry of some home items you would like to upgrade), most wedding guests give cash or checks as gifts on their own without being asked. The bottom line of NOT having a honeyfund is you'll likely get cash you can spend on your honeymoon without risking offending anyone or paying the percentage that all funds collect. If you think of it logically, a honeyfund makes no sense, except to the company who offers it -- they get a percentage of the gifts your guests would have given you anyway.... Also, FWIW, at daughter's wedding the older/more traditional guests (the exact people who might be most likely to find a cash fund offensive) gave daughter & SIL the largest cash gifts. If you think of it that way, they probably aren't the guests you'd want to risk offending.

View Quoted Comment We've lived together for 6 years prior to marriage as well. We created a small registry of upgrade items (like better knives and cookware) because my bridal party threw us a shower. For the wedding, almost everyone brought us a card with cash or a check inside. Any of those online cash funds charge a percentage for their service. It's really not necessary to include a third party in the situation. Just don't register and people will get the hint. And those that do decide to give you a physical gift will do so regardless. We got 1 physical gift at our wedding, and despite having a registry, it was something off registry anyway. So, you may get those people. Also, even if you don't find cash funds rude, many people, especially from older generations do, so it makes sense to just skip it since they don't really increase your chances of getting money. In fact, they add another step.

I have heard of people doing them… But I would never do one.

I Dont Think its Tacky At All.

I have a small registry and we included a honeymoon fund that is linked to a separate savings account. I added it in the event some of our more non-traditional guests or out of state guest wanted to do it. FH and I have been also contributing to the account to save up for a honeymoon that we can take later on after COVID is better.


We have been together for almost 7 years and we are both in our 40’s and well established so our registry is some upgraded items for our house.

I had one! I broke mine down to activities they can pay for and I found they liked that better

As a guest and recently married, i understand that money is needed more than that salad dish that person was planning on buying. I wouldn't be offended and honestly I don't get why people do get offended. If your buying a gift anyways, what difference does it make.

My FH and I will have been together 7 years by the time we get married, so anything we register for will basically be upgraded appliances and whatnot, but I mentioned honeymoon funds to my mom last week when talking about where to register, and she went on a rant about how tacky they are. So definitely can't do that. I know older guests, or more traditional guests may have an issue. So I'll have a regular registry, though it may be smallish.

We have a honeymoon fund set up because like you, we've been living together for some time and really don't need appliances. The responses so far has been great, people loved the idea that they have that option, but I also set up a little silly blurb that went with the honeymoon fund to show that they didn't need to give us money, but we would appreciate that over physical gifts, just incase some people took it as "GIVE US YOUR MONEEYYY" LOL. I was also told that, since people will be paying taxes on physical gifts, that the small percentage they have to pay to contribute to the fund will equal the same idea.

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FWIW in the US "homely" is generally taken to mean "plain, simple or unattractive," so this poem basically says we don't need "plain, simple or unattractive gifts...." "Homey," which means "feeling like home" might be a better word choice if you're going with this approach.

From Grammarist.com: Homely vs. homey "Homey means feeling like home. In British English, homely means the same as homey. But homely is different in American English, where it means plain, simple, or unattractive. It’s often used as a polite way of saying someone is not beautiful."

View Quoted Comment Oo great to know! I grew up in Australia so I guess I didn't think anything of it!
But to be absolutely honest, the poem was taken from a blog that suggested ways to introduce honeymoon funds😂 I just checked for spelling mistakes but not American English meanings! Thanks for letting me know!

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LOL.... I get it. I have a close American born relative who lives in AU. She's had lots of confusing and sometimes really embarrassing conversations where her American English had a different meaning than she intended. I think her worst was when we shared quite publicly which football team she "roots" for.... THAT proved to be embarrassing!