Honeymoon Fund

We are using wanderable. 2.5% to both us and the giver. On a $40 gift, we got $39. Not bad. We too are 30, have lived alone until we lived together 6 months ago. We don't need a bunch and actually downsized when we moved in together. So this works for us. We also have a small traditional registry for people who HAVE to buy us something but when people have asked my preference, I was honest.

If people don't approve, oh well.

Bah... We didn't put a link to ours on our invitations or anything. We just put the link on our wedding website and are telling people if they ask where we're registered (plus a department store registry, with crap we don't need like panini presses haha). For people who already have everything they need for their home, I don't see a problem with it. But that may just be me being tacky.

We're doing a honeyfund and a regular gift registry so people have the option. There isn't a whole lot on the gift registry because we have a lot already, but it's enough for those who want to do it the traditional way. It's not a big deal to us or to the people who are coming to our wedding. It's becoming more common now (at least in my area) and ultimately it's your decision and not what anyone on here tells you. I've contributed to honeyfunds and I would much rather do that than buy my friends a popcorn maker or ice cream maker or chip/dip set that they will hardly use .

I don't think it's tacky if that's what you prefer. You know your family best, so do what you feel comfortable with.

Definitely wasn't making any stabs against you or your situation. I just was stating my opinion and a lot of brides do expect the gifts or the money in return. I did not say that is what you were doing. I would personally just not register so that cash would be given.

In my opinion, they are tacky.

My grandfather lives in Florida I live in Massachusetts he is older and sickly.he actually called me and asked me to set up a honey fund account so he could send me something since he won't be able to come. My aunts in Florida also used it. They feel more secure than sending a check in the mail.

Based on comments here, and the opinions of our close friends and family, we've decided to create a gift registry through FlightCentre.com. Any gifts will be placed on a gift card, which we will use for travel in the future.

There aren't any fees for either party, and any contributors will know exactly where their gift is going.

Thanks again for all of your comments!

To actually answer your question and not give unsolicited opinions of it " being tacky "

honeyfund.com and they don't charge fees.

We just set up a honeyfund. Like any registry, it gives ideas for guests what a couple needs or wants. Like may of the pp, were pushing 30 and have been on our own since college and don't have a need for tons of gifts. We still have a traditional registry at target and BB&B. We won't be putting it in our invites, just the wedding website and if guests don't give us anything, were ok with that, too. I'm not sure why people think it's tacky. If that's the case, registering for anything can be considered uncouth.

ETA: you do get charged a small service fee when you have funds withdrawn. It also gives guests the option to print out a certificate and then give cash/check In person, which avoids any fees.

It just depends on what you want. We opened a honeymoon wishes account and friends and relatives loved the idea and we have gotten many gifts from it so far. So, it's all about what you are comfortable in doing and your perception of that type of registry. It works for us!

Any honeymoon registry website charges fees because they can't process credit cards for free. It isn't a way for the site to make money off of you or the guest. It just isn't possible to be 100% free when they have to process credit cards for you to receive your gift.

I don't find it tacky at all. In my opinion whether I am asking for a toaster and bed sheets or asking for a zip lining adventure I am asking my guest to spend money on me.

My FH and I have lived together for over 3 years and don't need all the home good items and haven't traveled anywhere really so doing a honeymoon registry fits us perfectly. We will get to have an amazing trip and make memories that last far longer then a toaster.

We are using travelersjoy.com . A friend of ours used it so we know how well it works and trust it.

It is not "tacky" to do this. There was even a post, or stickie about this. Many people in our day are doing this now. Heck our friends and family wanted us to do a honeymoon site cause they said they wanted to contribute to it! Just do what you wanna do and find the best site that is good for you. Honeyfund and wisingwell are good... good luck! ( you know your friends and family best, we dont)

I think it's a great idea if you already have everything you need and there are people that want to get you something. do your research, ultimately it's up to you and your FH!! people on here are very opinionated, as you can tell.

We are considering this as well.... At one point registries for gifts were deemed tacky too and now you see them everywhere. Times change so etiquette changes too. I think sometimes people put WAY too much thought into things. I want my gift to be something a couple can use. If that's to a honeymoon? awesome, if that's a new coffee maker, great.... If that's some cash have at it. The point is to gift. You choose as an individual how you gift. No one is putting a gun to your head. But if you ask the couple what would you like kind of not fair to shoot them in foot for being honest. Just because someone would like something doesn't mean people have to get it.

As to the OP I see you already made a decision as someone else has mentioned we have looked into go fund me. We liked the idea of having some funds already ready in hand before the honeymoon. FWIW we had family bring up the honeymoon fund to us. I think it really depends on your crowd. The oldest person coming to our wedding is his mom and she was all for it.