Honeymoon Funds... Rude or Not Rude?

Sugarcoat it as you will, not just in weddings, but in all social areas, asking people to give you a gift of money is considered rude. Also, a percentage is taken by the honeymoon fund company. They use deceptive means to raise funds: Many picture or name excursionns, activities and costs for tickets, of things on the honeymoon. So people think, that is what they are giving. They are not. They are taking a percentage of money off the top, then giving it to the couple weeks after the wedding, most often after the honeymoon. Taxes are paid based on this lump sum, as they are not for most gifts. Couples who get the money after their honeymoon had to charge everything with fees and interest, if they did not plan other things. And they do not necessarily spend the money on their honeymoon at all. They can spend it in things people deceived into thinking they were getting a honeymoon thing, would never have wanted to give the couple. To spend on anything. I for one would feel deceived if I thought I paid for a 2 day boat excursion off the Amalfi coast of Italy, and found it went for a paintball club, or a purchase of cocaine enough to keep a party happy, and there is nothing to say it must be spent on what people requested. Unlimited porn viewing on 5. International sites may not be what grandma wanted when sh picked out a gift of 5 day passes to great museums in France, or an off road 3 wheeler instead of a spa morning for each day of a week in a resort. Deceptive practices, lying, do not go over well, and they are the foundation of honeymoon sites I have looked at. Grandma would do better to give you a check with a note, buy yourself anything for your honeymoon, or directly pay for morning 2 hour spa and massages on a resort or cruise account. And bot waste a percentage to the company, some to taxes ay a high rate for a lump sum cash payment, and any fees and interest from you paying for things, while waiting for them to send you money a month or so later. People can figure out how to give money, all by themselves, with all of it going to you. If anyone asks what you want, it is not rude to tell them, we would like to buy this, and are saving up. Do that. Or let people give money if they want, no strings attached. But don't ask for money using a scheme of deceptive practices.

I think people can do whatever they feel at their wedding. As a millennial I find it progressive and that I really helped you all enjoy a vacation as a married couple. I personally would not care if you actually spent the money on the honeymoon or not, that's not why I give money. It's your coin now, do as you will.

Some ideas being shared are truly cultural. For example in many Indian, Nigerian weddings, in fact weddings with POCs, money being given to the couple is relatively expected. I had a guest say, "you're suppose to give the couple money relatively equal to what they spent for you to be there." What is "classy" and "tasteless" is based upon experience. I have my list of classy and I assure you many would disagree. You can ask for whatever you want, doesn't mean people are going to give it. Blessings on your day!

Most WW users are not a fan of asking for money in any way. I personally think it is your decision as you know your crowd, unlike us. A lot will also say, just don't register and they will know to give cash. Don't do that! Do the honeymoon fund. Do some type of registry. Not all people take hints, especially if they are older. If they don't want to contribute to it, they don't have to. Good luck!

Forgo the website (they take a portion of it from you anyway) and just have a card box at the reception. Don't register anywhere and let your parents/future in-laws know that you're going that route. They'll spread the word for you.

I like the card box at the reception idea. I don't think it is rude at all to let ppl know what you want as opposed to registering for a toaster. Cash will do. LOL. Just my opinion but I would just not register and have the card box at the reception if it were me

I did a mix of retailers and a honeymoon fund. It's really your decision but we went with this because we need household items as well.

View Quoted Comment I have to disagree with you, some people do struggle financially and when they have a wedding and pay for a wedding they no longer have the funds to go on their honeymoon. So setting up a option to donate to a honeymoon is not a bad idea. Why make a registry with all this crap you don’t really need or want?