Honeymoon Jar Fund

Not a good idea. Guests are already spending money on a gift for the shower. Asking them, even optionally, to give you even more is not in good taste.

Many people don't go on a honeymoon or go later when they can afford to go. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Nope. It still looks like you are panhandling. If people wish to gift you money, they will. You do not need to ask people to put money in a jar for an OPTIONAL vacation when they have already brought a gift to your shower.

I think its a cute idea....Especially that fact that its a donation with a chance of winning something....Hopefully all is well for you guys.....
P.S ...Im curious well nosey where is the honeymoon destination????????....lol

It's a bad idea. Why not just delay the honeymoon until you can afford it? Maybe even make it a 1 year anniversary trip?

I think if you want to do a jar, do that INSTEAD of wedding/bridal gifts. Basically that would be their gift to you. I've seen some set up even at the wedding itself, added into the invitations that you don't wants stuff, you'd rather have funds for a honeymoon

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Were hoping for a cruise to Aruba. Its been a dream of mine to go there.

No, this is tacky. They are already giving you a gift, why is it appropriate to say "that's not enough, give me more"? That is exactly what this looks like. Just skip it and have your honeymoon later if you can't afford it now.

Don't do a jar. It seems grabby and most people nowadays don't carry cash around anyway. Either wait for the wedding where you're almost certainly going to get cash gifts and plan the honeymoon after you see how much money you receive, or (this is very controversial around here) create a cash fund registry. The cash registry for me personally is more to indicate what you plan on using their cash gifts for, not asking for money directly through that site. The way I set up our Zola account was breaking down events/items into categories as if it was a physical item registry ($80 for round trip train tickets, $20 to see a show). If people choose to give money (through the site or not) they can write something in a card like "enjoy the train ride" or "I hope you enjoy the show" which allows for easier thank you notes from me and FH, traditional registry items don't take up more room in our tiny apartment, and allows the gift giver to get an idea of what our honeymoon is going to entail.

There is no polite way to beg for money from your guests, whether you do it at the shower or at the wedding.

People at the shower have already bought, wrapped and given you a gift. How does the honeymoon jar then become optional? Do they open their purse and take their gift home to wait for the next bride? People at the wedding have already chosen either a physical gift or brought cash in a card. Then they are greeted by the sight of a jar asking for more money?

Plan the honeymoon you can afford. If that means you have to wait, so be it. If that means one night at an airbnb, so be it.

Nope. Nopenopenope!

View Quoted Comment Agreed!!! Just don't do it. We were forced to cancel our honeymoon and lost thousands. Did we put out a jar begging for more money? Nope... We took a long weekend away in a nearby city with what money we had left.

I would rather postpone my honeymoon until we can afford it--- do not want to ask my friends and family for a contribution to my vacation essentially.

If you can’t afford a honeymoon, don’t go on one yet. What happens if you book a fancy cruise to Aruba and you get $15 in your honeymoon jar? What happens if you book a fancy cruise to Aruba, you lose your job, and you only get $50 in your honeymoon jar? How will you survive? How will you pay for it? What happens if you book a fancy cruise to aruba, you get in a car accident and need a new car ASAP, and you have zero money?

When I go to a bridal shower, I always get a nice gift that costs a decent amount, and a thoughtful card. Unless it was a family member (and literally no one in my family would ever do something like this), I would laugh myself right out of the bridal shower. You want me to buy a bridal shower gift and then donate to your honeymoon fund? You’re not a charity.

Plenty of people pay for their own weddings and their own honeymoons. If you have zero extra money, it sounds like you need a savings account and to be financially stable before taking a luxury vacation you can’t afford.

All I could say is that I wouldn’t give to it.

I find it off-putting when people mention “paying for their own wedding”. It’s no one’s business where your money is coming from, or how your finances are doing. I personally would love a “donation” to go back to school since I “pay for it myself” but I know that’s not going to happen.

Why are you creating and sending invitations yourself? You don’t host your own shower.

Sorry - we paid for our entire wedding also, and we didn't ask for money from anyone. If you can't afford it, you don't get it, that's just the way it is.

If I was a guest at your wedding, I would not give to your jar, and I would definitely feel an amount of second-hand embarrassment for you.

No this is not a good idea. It’s not your bridal shower guest’s responsibility to help pay for your honeymoon. Just wait until you two can afford to take it. How long have you been planning your wedding?. Cruises can be paid on monthly. We’ve been paying on ours since last summer. Maybe you can find a cruise to Aruba for next year—an anniversary trip.

To be honest, I come from a Hispanic Culture that family prefers to give money rather than gifts. I would totally do the Honeymoon jar, you’re not forcing anyone to put money in the jar.
Do what you like.

View Quoted Comment Exactly. When FW and I get married, we’re going to have to move a couple months after and just won’t have the time or money to go on a honeymoon right away. So instead we’re just going to save up money and when we’re comfortable and have time, we will then go on our honeymoon. Whether it takes 6 months or 3 years, I’d rather save up my own money

I've found it's a polarizing topic on this website but if you want money towards a honeymoon- I would do a honeymoon fund website instead of a jar. Also, do not have any other registries.