Honeymoon or big wedding

I do, but I'm all about experiences over things.

I'd go with the long honeymoon!

Honeymoon!!!! It'll be the time of your life! I just think of how happy and carefree we are when we are on vacation. Add that to the high of being newlyweds and you'll have the best time you could ever dream of!

I'm choosing the small wedding big honeymoon as well. How I see it is the day is special but the honeymoon is the beginning of your lives together and it's a time to have fun without the worries of the world.

I wanted to elope and have a long honeymoon, but the big wedding was important to FH.

We chose the big wedding. The way FH put it was we can always take a vacation later, but we only get one wedding so it might as well be exactly what we want. Also vacation time at work would get in the way of a long honeymoon for him. That said, everyone is different so I don't think there's one right choice

As long as your guests are properly hosted, I would go big honeymoon. However, if I attended your poorly hosted reception, then found out you were having a lavish honeymoon, I would def side eye you.

My wedding went from 100 people invited to 141 people invited. Definitely wishing for a longer honeymoon right now.

I'd pick awesome honeymoon over big wedding.

We are doing a big wedding since FH has a large family and we are both really close with our families. We said we can always do a big vacation later for anniversaries or any summer since we both are in the school system so we have off

If I had to choose...I would choose the big wedding. Your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime event, whereas you can take a vacation anytime.

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Our wedding and mini moon are pretty budgeted but way more is going into the actual day!

We did big wedding and I don't regret that decision at all

I would honestly rather have the wedding. You only get married once but in the future you may be able to take a vacation with your hubby once in awhile.

I would choose the big wedding and honeymoon later. As @S&P said. You can honeymoon whenever you want; it's just a vacation, essentially. You only get married once and I would want to do it exactly the way we've always wanted without excluding any of our loved ones. You'll have the rest of your lives together to get your honeymoon experience.

FH and I don't like a lot of attention, so I would choose a small wedding and long honeymoon.

We had a lot of pressure from family for a not so small wedding, so we're having an 85 guest wedding and a week-long honeymoon. I wish we could've done a two week though!

I agree with the small ceremony and big honeymoon!

Obviously, it's your choice. Personally? A small wedding, honeymoon or not. I see these big weddings, and I really wonder if the expense and stress measure up to the dream of THAT experience. A lot of the people there look like they could be anywhere, like they're not really invested in the couple at all. You have parents' friends you hardly know, people who are invited to satisfy obligations, family members you never see....this is why they show up late and are on their cell phones two minutes after the ceremony is over. The pressure to invite a giant group you don't particularly feel connected to is not a valid reason to spend such a giant amount of money on a party; if a honeymoon is just a vacation....a wedding reception really is just a party.

I know I'm cynical but it's an informed cynicism. You should do what you want, and be prepared to pay for it if a giant guest list is the price of entry for having your parents contribute to it.

As for the honeymoon being optional 'at any time'? That's not really true. Life, children, money, obligations; all of these make a long vacation difficult, though I do like the idea of waiting a little bit....

We chose the wedding. We figured we could always take a trip some other time, but we were never (we hope!) going to have another wedding.

I agree, honeymoon all the way!