Honeymoon Shower Wording

The Bridesmaids to

[Insert Brides Name]

would like to invite you to shower the bride with cash! We are gonna make it rain at this shower!

The bride and groom do not need any earthly possessions or any gifts. They request to be showered in cash, check, or gift cards.

Please note the honeyfund and be sure to include the service charges and fees when considering your gift. Also, none of your money will actually book or guarantee the pricing of any of the food, services, or experiences pictured online as they are all best guesses put together by travel agents.

Please RSVP by [Month, Day, Year] to secure your seat.

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Registries are meant to be guides, used mostly for showers where the whole point is to give physical gifts. They let guests know you already have a mixer, but you need a new blender, and that you use blue plates and linens so no one gets you red towels that don't match anything. If you're going to give a physical gift at a shower, it's good to make sure it's something the couple will actually use and like, hence the registry.

No one needs to be told that money is a good gift.

A Honeymoon shower is not a thing. I would certainly decline no matter how it is worded.

I don’t need anything but my friend wanted to throw me a pre-wedding tea. She called it a shower so that people knew she was throwing it as a party for me. She asked where I was registered and I wasn’t (yet at least) so I told her to make it a pampering theme shower—things like candles, bubble bath, etc. this way, I’m not having friends who are already coming to my wedding buying me unnecessary gifts but they still feel like they’re “showering” me.

Sure, it’s 2018 but if she can’t afford to take a vacation, she is not automatically entitled to one just because she’s getting married and she has a child. Nobody is entitled to a luxury vacation. You work hard and you save your money and you deserve your luxury vacation.

Hosting a bridal shower and asking for “donations” to a travel agent is rude. A shower is for physical gifts not for people to tell you how much money they donated. Donations are for charities (sick people, poor people, underprivileged peopled, animals, whatever you fancy), not for someone to take a luxury vacation they can’t afford themselves. What happens if not enough people “donate” and the bride and groom can’t afford to cover the rest of the trip by themselves? What if a medical emergency happens and the bride/groom don’t have savings to pull from so they need this cash for their emergency?

View Quoted Comment I would decline this and not attend. Even if it was my friend. Or purposely bring a gift.

My sister registered for exertions for the honeymoon. Different options like horse back riding on the beach , candle lit dinner for two . etc this way guests put contributions to the honey moon but it was more like giving them an experience to remember not just straight cash

Pinterest is full of honeyfund poems... I personally would contribute if it was a dear friend, but I would not find it of good taste. Monetary donations are for emergencies, health issues, a house that burns down... that's the type of donation I am comfortable doing but to each their own.

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Yikes! I'm not adamantly anti-honeyfund, but this would make me decline so fast!

I would do as some people have suggested. Have her register for honeymoon related accessories, and don't mention anything about the honeyfund, but include both links (one to the physical registry and one to the honeyfund). You just say "The Bride is registered at X and X" and let the guests choose for themselves what they want to contribute.

View Quoted Comment I 100% agree with this!!

A fund and a registry are very different things. A registry is a guideline, and should only be provided when asked. Asking for cash in any form is always rude. People do not need you to set up a fund to give you cash if they are so moved. And there are no "funds" for honeymoons, home, etc. because those are not charitable causes.

And the entire purpose of a shower is to "shower the bride" with gifts. If you don't want them, don't have a shower. I

No Registry = No Shower.

You have a shower to receive gifts off your registry, a honeyfund is a cash grab not a registry. You wouldn't sit around and open cards so everyone can see how much everyone else gave. Plus if you have a honeyfund then they're encouraged to donate online so there wouldnt even be cards to open, or just empty cards. Defeats the purpose. She should skip the honeyfund all together, and if they want cash just don't register and skip the shower,

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I mean if you apply the same logic to a registry then couldn't someone say you aren't entitled to a wedding if you can't afford to get needed items for your house?

The couple has been living together for years I'm not sure what the difference is if someone spends money on towels or the same amount on sending the couple on a vacation?

I agree with previous posters that maybe a brunch is a better set up because at showers you usually sit there and watch the bride open gifts so it's a bit different in that aspect but that's it.

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Then I would rather give the money to the couple directly with a note that said, "have a nice dinner on your honeymoon, congrats." I would not go through a website that would take a cut of those funds, just to give them a check after they get back from said honeymoon, where they never used it for anything I thought I was getting for them!

Side note: most couples, or established adults, have basic household necessities. The shower registry does not take a fee for it's use, and I can actually give a couple something they'd like, as opposed to clicking an experience online. So the same logic can go when someone asks if the couple is registered, "well, they've already got everything they need, but they're saving for their honeymoon still." I would take that as a hint that it would be a good idea to give them cash so they can do that extra thing.

TLDR; the honeyfund and the "shower" is the point of transgression here. I'm sure most people wouldn't have an issue with just giving the couple money at the reception for them to use as they wish.

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I had a wedding registry... you know how many items I got off of it??? 4!!!! Everyone else gave us cash... for showers and the wedding.

do you know what kind of honeymoon they are planning (tropical beach, Vegas, Europe)? You could use that as the basis for the party theme... a luau for a Hawaii trip, a fiesta for a beach vacation to Mexico, and Italian theme for a euro trip, a casino theme for Vegas! Sooo many good ideas come to mind that now I want to throw a honeymoon shower for someone!

Etsy and Pinterest have good ideas like these!

no one said gifts are compulsory... if people don’t want to give cash they won’t (but in my experience, those people won’t buy you a gift either... and who cares).

I think I may have the unpopular opinion here, but I don't get easily offended. If I received an invitation to a dear friend/family members shower and it had a honey fund on it, I would not bat an eye & I def would not decline the invitation to celebrate simply because of that.

If you are going the route of honey moon I would say, as PP's have said, register for the things you need for your honeymoon and leave the rest up to your guests to decide what to give to you. I think you got a few good ideas for invites already so I won't post anything as far as that is concerned.