Honeymoon shower

What is your definition of a honeymoon shower?

A shower for physical items that you need for your honeymoon? Sure! That's ok.

A shower where guests bring cards with money in them for you honeymoon? Not ok, and defeats the whole purpose of a shower.

View Quoted Comment We were thinking making it a jack and Jill and calling it a honeymoon shower. I don’t think it defeats the purpose of a “shower” since we don’t need household items so that would be pointless for us to make a registry for things we don’t need. Of course it’s not traditional. But we don’t need any household items. We would create a link and instead of a gift registry, have people give money towards our honeymoon to Aruba.

I’d say it’s the same thing as buying a gift. Don’t give a $50 gift of kitchen plates. I’d rather it go towards something fun.

This is a know your crowd thing. In my crowd, we give money at weddings, but Jack and Jills are a no go and honeymoon funds are too so a shower like this wouldn’t fly in our social circle.

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But the entire point of a shower is to "shower" the bride/couple with physicals gifts. No where did I mention household items, I mentioned items for the honeymoon, luggage, water gear, snow gear (set to where you plan on going), etc.

People will end up giving you money as a gift for the wedding itself. Don't have a registry and just have a honeymoon fund. Having a party where the purpose is to give you money for your honeymoon, can come off greedy.

View Quoted Comment That’s your opinion. That I wasn’t asking for- my post says has anyone ever done one. Lol

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People don't do it - for the reasons Janet gave you.

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I agree with this. But to an extent, it's also a "know your crowd" thing. My family and friends would think it's greedy, but I do know someone who did something kind of like this- they registered for things like luggage, snorkel gear, clothing, etc, through amazon for physical items, and also registered for "experiences" like a snorkel with turtles excursion, a kayak rental, etc for during their trip. They didn't have a fund for the honeymoon itself though. It was all items either to use/wear or experiences. It still came off slightly tacky to me, but that's just not how my circle is, but plenty of people attended and gave gifts.

A shower is for physical gifts. So will you be requesting items specific to a honeymoon and forgoing all typical registry gifts? A registry is a wish list for stuff you want and need that you don’t want to spend your own money on. If you don’t want physical gifts, don’t have a shower. But you do need to graciously accept what guests do give.

I am thinking about doing a honeymoon shower too. My fiance and I live together and have the things we need, but my family will still want to throw me a shower. We might do jack and Jill. There are so many traditions around weddings that I'm not doing, so I don't really care that people on here think it's tacky. You do you! I've contributed to others' honey funds and given cash gifts if that's what the couple wanted and it made me happy to do so. I mean, I'm in my forties and I have Amazon prime. I don't need towels. But if guests would like to bless us, they can help us out with the honeymoon. My friends and family love the idea! What do your close friends and family think? I agree with previous poster that you gotta know your crowd I guess.