Honeymoon shower!

Showers are for bringing physical gifts for the bride and groom. It isn't really good to plan a shower for yourself and ask solely for money. If you can't afford the honeymoon then wait to book it until after the wedding when you will get the monetary gifts.

So people just bring cash to the shower? This seems odd to me. If I was invited to a shower, I'd bring a physical gift to "shower" the bride with or I wouldn't go.

I agree with what has already been said. Showers are for physical gifts, hence where the word "shower" comes from - showering the couple (usually the bride) with gifts. It is not good manners to plan your own shower and especially not to host your own shower. A lot of people would really consider this idea to be offensive. You should not depend on other people to pay for your honeymoon. If you can't afford it on your own, then postpone it until you can. A lot of couples are doing this now. We did. We got married in December but took our honeymoon in October after the wedding.

Having worked in weddings and events, I know a lot of people are sticklers for etiquette. However, from a personal standpoint, I'm more often of the mindset that it's your wedding and you should be able to do what you want. That being said, you know your "audience." So you have to really stop and think whether or not this is something your friends and family will go for. A lot of this stuff is subjective. For example, I have family who find a lot of etiquette "rules" and traditions to be rude! That being said, if you think your family wouldn't be keen on providing you cash for your honeymoon, why don't you register for things you need for the honeymoon? Things like luggage, specialty clothing, a new camera, etc. are things you might need and can often cost a decent chunk. So if you registered for those, you could use the money you save toward your trip. A penny saved is a penny earned after all. If you set up a newlywed fund here on the know, you could register for things like your plane tickets, hotel room, a fancy meal. Those kinds of registries are becoming more common. Then your guests will feel like they're actually buying you something rather than just giving you the cash.

Hello. Thank you for your response. I am sorry you don't think I can afford a honeymoon, but I can. I am not planning my own shower, my bridesmaids are! Now the real question is, what do you think about having my shower 4.5 months before the wedding?

It is a shower where people can put money towards your honeymoon. I registered through Boscovs and my bridal shower guest can go on and either put money towards my shower, or buy us and excursion, or buy us a nice dinner!

Hi thanks for your response! I am not throwing it myself, my wonderful bridesmaids are. They don't bring cash, they go through boscovs! they can buy us an excursion, or they can buy us a dinner! I also registered for some gifts for people who don't want to put money towards are honeymoon . Now what do you think of having a shower 4.5 months before my wedding? I know its too soon and I don't really have a choice!

Thanks for your response! No they upload it onto boscovs. They have the option of that, or buying us an excursion, or buying a nice meal! Also I registered for some gifts for people who do not want to contribute to the shower.

So would you call the bride at the shower you were invited to and flip out on them? Thankfully you aren't invited to mine!

Thanks for your response! My family are aware of what I want as are my bridesmaid and they love the idea! They have different options as well! They can buy us and excursion, or a nice dinner. I also registered for a few gifts because boscovs ( that is where I registered) suggested I do so for people who do not want to contribute to my shower. Plus my bridesmaid are throwing and amazing shower that will really thank everyone who contributed. I understand that people find it rude and different, but I really am able to afford a honeymoon if need be. I can't stomach another item in my house, so this is why I chose this route. Thanks again.

I don't think having your shower at that time will make a difference. I had my Bachelorette party 5 months before because it fit us best. If thats when your crew can do it for whatever reasons then have it your shower 4.5 months before your wedding. Can I ask will your wedding registry be different?