Honeymoon....with or with out kids?

You are absolutely NOT crazy. H and I actually took SD on our mini-moon the weekend after our wedding, but our proper HM starts on Sunday and you bet your ass, it's going to be just me and him and cocktails with umbrellas for the week. Of course I love SD, but there's something to be said about adult alone time.

Nope, not crazy at all. If you can afford it, have the time, and have the support, there's nothing wrong with taking a vacation just the two of you. They say that couples need time to themselves, away from kids. If you were ONLY vacationing for yourselves and never took your kids anywhere, I would feel differently, but it doesn't really sound like that from what you're saying.

I think you're being perfectly reasonable. Honeymoons aren't for kids. If you can you should try to have some alone time to connect with your new husband!

I think each couple can do what they want. We are getting married in April and taking a couple days just for ourselves. Then in the summer, we are taking our big trip, and taking our kids, ages 13, 14, 16, 17.

For us, it was cost. We are a blended family, so, we were not able to afford a honeymoon and a family vacation. So, we are married on a Sat, and will be back on Monday. Then, for the big "honeymoon" we are going to surprise our kids with a Family vacation to the ocean.

If you want a honeymoon, take it. Your mother in law should not pressure you, you need alone time. Just tell her this is a honeymoon, not a vacation and leave it at that. No need to feel guilt.

Enjoy your couple time!

Is she the one that is supposed to be watching them?

I wouldn't want to take kids on a honeymoon, I think having time alone is important. Maybe she isnt' sure about being able to mind them, but doesn't want to come out and say that.

You're definitely not crazy for wanting alone time,

My parents took trips without me and I turned out just fine, FH's parents wen to Hawaii for a 1/2 weeks for their anniversary when FH was 7 and FBIL was 9. The had it where the boys stayed home and their grandparents spit the time, one was there Friday-Tuesday and the other came Tuesday-Monday. It's funny that this has popped up here since my mom and were talking about my parents going somewhere and I am gonna go take care of my brother who is 7.

Maybe if you set up some fun things for the kids to do while you're away she might back off.

Ok, I figured I was not being crazy but, I had to ask. Also, we go on three trips every year with the boys & are always doing the normal family stuff. We usually do an ocean trip since we have friends with a house at the ocean that we can stay at for almost nothing. We also go up to my grandparents house in the 1000 islands. We don't usually do anything without them lol.

AG13- My MOTHER is this person lol and will not be watching either of them. More than likley my Step son will be staying with his mom & my son will either be going with my ExMIL or my dad in NY (so he can have some time with his grandparents there). My mother has never watched him for more than a few hrs with my PAYING her even let alone even have her over night. He will be 7 & has never slept over at his Nana's. She says she is not ready for that & she already went through it with me & my brother.

DH and I don't have kids, but we went to Sandals and it was so nice to be somewhere where there were absolutely no kids! It was so romantic and adults could just be adults. I think every adult deserves to have vacations without kids sometimes, especially for a honeymoon!

I am not taking my kids on our honeymoon. That is time for you guys to relax and enjoy being newlyweds. Don't feel guilty at all. She is the crazy one for thinking that not you! lol

We also think having time to ourselves as a couple is very important. We have to be able to reconnect from time to time in order to keep sane from the craziness of life & having a family.

We're going to go away for a couple nights in the area, but the real 'honeymoon' will be a family-moon as FH wants to take the kids with us and go to Disney. Part of his thinking is that he's marrying into a family and wants to show his commitment to them too. If we are able to do this, then this will be our first travel vacation as a family as well.

@Jennifer- That is awesome & if we could afford Disney we would def. take the kids as well. We were not opposed to it completely but, we do so much as family now that it shows how committed we are to each other & our blended family

We're going alone. We love our daughter obviously, but we also don't know when we'll be able to take a trip just the two of us. We will still be taking the kids on a camping trip at the end of summer or early fall though.

We also are going alone. Originally, we had planned on SD coming with us due to a promise of her going to NYC the next time her dad (my FH) went, but my mother, father, and FILs intervened and convinced her she would have much more fun during spring break with FMIL (who usually takes her during that time since she lives almost 2 hours away)

Wtf. I think this thing happens when you have kids that people think you need to do everything 100% as a family unit. Well that's total BS. You and FH absolutely deserve this time along to yourselves. Enjoy yourselves!

Amanda - Do not feel guilty at all. It's your honeymoon for crying out loud.

@Kmess-Thank you!

@Stephie-I don't really feel guilty....she didn't push me that far lol

Nope.. You're good. She's the crazy one lol

You're not crazy, I have 2 kids and would LOVE a honeymoon on our own. Unfortunately we don't have a bunch of people that are willing to watch them for more than a couple of days so we are doing Disneyland with our kids.