Honorary Bridesmaid(s) (small wedding party)

We are having a small wedding too. My fiance has 2 people and I have 2 people. I just straight up asked them to be my bridesmaids (they are my sisters and one is married so to be fair one is matron and one is maid or honor) I said they don't have to match dresses they can wear whatever dress they want but I only had a color preference it had to be. If it doesn't matter what color or what they wear then let them stand by you on your day. The party doesn't have to be even but I'm sure they would love to be there for you on your big day

In my opinion, you're either a bridesmaid or you're not. Asking someone to be an "honorary bridesmaid," isn't really an honor. The honor in being a bridesmaid is standing next to your friend on their wedding day. If you don't want them in the wedding party, don't have them in the wedding party, but there's no need to complicate things with fake titles. Ask your friends to get ready with you if you want to include them somehow on the day of the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I agree with Caytlyn. For the reasons she mentioned, I wouldn't ask them to be honorary bridesmaids. Can you find other roles for them, such as doing a reading during the ceremony or handing out ceremony programs? Otherwise, if you want them to be bridesmaids, you don't have to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. One side could have more than the other.

Hi MacKenzie! Do you think they are going to be surprised or disappointed to not be asked to be bridesmaids? I would totally understand if you're having a small wedding and just having family members as bridesmaids!

It sounds like they'll definitely still be in your close crew who's invited to your shower and bachelorette, and I love the idea of asking them to get ready with you on the wedding day! ❤️

They're still involved in all the fun stuff, they just don't have to wear a bridesmaids dress or stand for the ceremony! 😉

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with Lisa. If you want to honor them, make them bridesmaids or find a special job for them like a reading or usher or guestbook attendant.