Honoring a friend who isn’t a bm

So FH was adamant he didn’t want more than 4 GM , so we agreed that would be our number (we wanted it even) however I struggled bc 2 of my BM are my sisters, 1 is my FSIL, and my MOH is my best friend. It makes sense but I also have another very dear friend (Gwen) who I was really torn on, especially because I am 1 of Gwen’s 2 MOHs for her wedding (long engagement & no date set yet - she asked me about a year and a half ago). FH did tell me I could have 5 to include Gwen but I was worried that if I did, more of my friends would be hurt that they weren’t asked, so I thought it would be better to stick with my 4 (BFF, 2 sisters, & FSIL).



It’s been like 2 months since I asked all my girls, and I have my dress, and my MOH has reached out to a bunch of my friends (including Gwen) about the bachelorette, so I think Gwen knows she’s not in the bridal party…

I hadn’t Spoken to Gwen in a bit so I reached out to catch up & we were chatting about wedding stuff and it made me really sad and guilty that I didn’t ask her, because she really is one of my best friends.

All that to say, I want to figure out how to honor her and our friendship, without making her feel ‘added in’ or second-rate. My first thought was “make her a BM!” But I’m sure she’d find out somehow that she was added in and that isn’t right.

I’m wondering if asking her to read a passage during the ceremony is a good honor? And would it be awkward for her if I asked her to get ready with me & the BMs the morning of the wedding? Basically I want her to be a BM, but I didn’t do it when I should have (was struggling a lot at the beginning of planning) and I don’t know what to do now 🙁