Honoring my mother at the wedding

Everyone grieves in different ways, so this is my opinion only. I wouldn't include permanent physical reminders to honor your mother. For instance, I can see how the empty chair seems like a good idea, but are you and your family going to look at that empty chair and smile and think about your mother, or are you going to look at it and feel sad that she isn't there to fill that empty seat? That seems more painful than positive, at least to me. I would honor her in more subtle ways. Include her favorite flower or color in your bouquet, use a piece of her clothing to wrap your bouquet or sew into your dress, walk down the aisle or dance with your father to her favorite song, wear a piece of her jewelry.

Hey doll. I understand the loss of a mom and it sucks. I know for me I have a picture of both of my parents as the charm on my bouquet. It is not bad to overthink. I considered having a reserved chair for them both for my ceremony but then I knew I would be crying on the way down the aisle and I feel there are already a few factors that will make me emotional the day of. I know at a wedding reception a friend of mine had she did a table with pictures of loved ones loss on the way into the venue. I think it was a nice touch but not in the couple's face to be sad.

I first what to say I am so sorry for your loss. I never went through this so I can't say I understand how you are feeling. I agree with Caytlyn that an empty chair that would be a physical reminder of her not being there could be more harmful as it will be a constant reminder during your ceremony to you and the rest of your family that your mom isn't there. I would probably do more subtle things like maybe a charm on your bouquet with a photo of her or if you plan on doing a remembrance table then you could include a picture of her there. I don't think she would want you to grieve her on your wedding day.

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  This is hard and I totally understand. I lost my dad a few years ago. For me, I wanted to include his memory as much as possible without my guest feeling “overwhelmed”. With that said, little reminders of him make me smile. Therefore, I’ve chosen a handful of things that are meant solely for me and a few things our guest will actually “see” and realize it’s for my dad. Hopefully you can adapt a few of these ideas!

  
  

  Things just for me:

  • One of my dad’s ties cut into a heart shape and sewn into my dress.
  • My dad always bought me pink roses, so I’m adding them to my bouquet. As well, his handkerchief will be wrapped around my flowers.
  • I’m wearing two thin gold tennis bracelets he bought for me over the years.
  • His favorite candy at the dessert table. (No signage).

  
  

  Things the guests will know:

  • a locket of my two favorite pictures of us will be in my bouquet.
  • I’m not doing a “chair”, but my mom will carry a white and pink rose down the isle and place it where he should have sat.
  • A non traditional memorial table. We are doing a cigar bar in his honor. So it’s fun and interactive for our guest and a special way to remember him

Oh no I am so sorry about your mom Prayers to you They have flower charms you can hang on your boquet with her picture in it you can have a picture of her and a rose in what would have been her seat its really up to you