Host own bridal shower?

Do it! I don’t see anything wrong with you planning it yourself!!

Go for it! I think that would be awesome to do for yourself. No hidden surprises, No unwanted guests and best of all no awkward moments.

Bridal showers are about gifts, whether you say you want them or not. As a bride, it’s fine for you to host a bridal brunch or luncheon since they’re not gift giving events.

I say got for it. I’ve been planning my own BS since I’ve started planning my wedding. Most of my family is local as well as my almost in-laws but no one throws a party like me. I’ve always known exactly what I want and how I want the party to look. My MOH is helping me and my mom has bought a few things but I’m doing everything else. You deserve to be celebrated, even if you have to provide the venue. As for the gifts, don’t turn them away. Your friends want to celebrate you and your union and will get gifts if they can. Maybe don’t expect too much off you don’t think they can afford it but let them decide.

I’m hosting my own. I’m super particular about how I like my events (decor, food, music etc) and my BMs know this about me so they were fully expecting it. During my bachelorette party we’re going to participate in a couple events so their choosing to pay for those for me instead. I dont think there is anything wrong with making your own traditions or going about things your own way.

What you are describing would be a bachelorette party or a bridal luncheon, not a shower.

A shower is about you receiving gifts, whether you ask for them or not, so it is rude to host one for yourself. Do you have coworkers who might throw one for you? Or perhaps, given the virus, a virtual one (which would require a lot less money)?

View Quoted Comment I don’t want a bachelorette party. I was thinking of doing the shower at home. No, I’m self employed so I don’t have coworkers. Wedding is in August so I was going to do it the weekend before the wedding. I’m going to put my SIL as the host even though I’m planning and paying for everything. She lives in another country so I can’t expect her to do it.

View Quoted Comment Then it might be best to call it a bridal luncheon.
The word "shower" will indicate gifts are expected.