Hot or Cold Plate Wedding Dinner?

We served cold food for our reception. Do people really expect filet migon at 3pm?! It was a small, casual wedding in the country. Our food was all all organic, with gluten-free and vegetarian options (I live in Oregon where that offering is standard). If your food aversions go beyond that, you're just too dang picky. Our guests loved the spread and we got many compliments the day of and in the months following. I'm glad our guests were there to celebrate our marriage and not just there to be a**holes about the food.

Sarah - many people have said there is nothing wrong with a cold lunch. The OP is asking about a dinner. I would not consider food at 3pm dinner.

And many people have allergies and intolerances beyond gluten and vegetarianism; it's not always about being "picky". I agree though, trying to cater to picky eaters or adults with the palate of a 5-year old is a little ridiculous.

There is a huge difference between someone who is allergic to certain foods and to those who are picky. The ones with allergies only need to ask and I am sure any bride would make sure they are safe and have food to eat. The ones that are picky, get over it.

Sarah, I'm sure your wedding was beautiful, exactly what you envisioned, well hosted, and completely appropriate. You had a small, casual wedding in the country. It sounds lovely. Do people really want filet mignon at 3:00 PM? I know people that would eat it for breakfast, lol, but I get your point. i tend to think of lunch fare as anything that is listed on a restaurant menu under "Lunch Entrees". In a casual restaurant, that's going to be a selection of cold meats and salads (vegetable and pasta). In a more elegant restaurant, the lunch menu will include some kind of princess cut prime rib (and other cuts of beef) and hot side dishes. It's really about the atmosphere and vibe of your wedding. If you're still getting compliments, then it's obvious that your selections were perfect.

To clarify, I would never expect someone to accomodate chicken tenders lol. I am a picky eater, yes. But my point was not that people should accomodate MY toddler tastes but that IIII should NOT be serving serving chicken tenders bc that's what IIII would want to eat, because obviously my guests expect to eat like adults at my wedding. My comment was geared towards the poster that said "do what YOU want", which as we all know, is not always the best way to look at your wedding planning. And for whomever asked, yes I would eat filet for lunch, however I don't walk into a wedding expecting filet. I do however expect a decent hot meal at dinner time, which is what OP is asking about.

I would prefer a hot dinner. Unless you're having an early wedding and could possibly do a cold lunch.

What Sarah said!

Hot plate. Never heard of cold plates at a wedding.