I have been struggling a lot recently with planning mostly because I feel like we cannot afford anything! We live in NC but are planning our wedding in NJ because it is where 95% of our family and friends are. I have reached out to probably 30 or 40 venues and there are some beautiful ones but they are ranging between 120-200 a person. We just do not have that sort of money as we are doing this all on our own. My FH is a LEO and does not make much, and I make less than him. We are cutting costs in our daily routine but I still feel like we will not be able to have the wedding I envision. I know there are some venues we can afford but I am being very picky. Am I being unrealistic and should I just accept that we cannot have a dream wedding or can we manage on a small budget?