How are you going against traditional etiquette?

Lots of them...

Oooh...cash bar.

*Gasp* Friends doing vendor things (officiant, hair and make up and DJ)

Oh no! We're not having a professional photographer.

SO many more,but they are the three that people seem to get worked up about.

Dry wedding. Gets people all shaken up.

Anything and everything. Heck I’m not even having a real wedding. We plan to marry legally by just signing the documents and then exchanging vows in a family member or friend’ backyard in front of 20 or so guests.

I love this thread. We’re inviting people to a couples shower who are not invited to the wedding. Don’t shoot!

Dry wedding! You'd think I was doing a live animal sacrifice the way people on here act about those!

We have a somewhat non traditional wedding party. All the attendants are women, with two grooms women. We’re not doing bouquet/garter toss. We’re doing a first look instead of seeing each other at the altar. I’m walking myself down the aisle. We have a mix of non-traditional and traditional.

View Quoted Comment None of that is really going against etiquette though - tradition, absolutely, but not etiquette. They’re not the same thing. Friendors and no photographer isn’t an etiquette thing either. For me, etiquette is about how you treat your guests, who you have invited to an event that you’re hosting. I personally think that it’s non-negotiable to provide food and drink for your guests (it doesn’t have to be a full meal if your reception isn’t over a meal time - cake and punch at an afternoon reception is totally fine, but if it’s over a meal time, you need to provide a meal); I think that if a guest has given you a gift, you need to write a thank-you note; I don’t believe it’s polite to invite guests to pre-wedding events if they’re not invited to the wedding; and I don’t think you should ever outright ask for money. Oh, and have a chair for every person wedding - don’t ask or expect people to stand. Beyond that, have the day you want to have and which makes you happy.

I totally asked friend to come help :x I felt so bad but I kind of needed it for my ceremony set up.

We are skipping a lot.

Self serve bar.

Frendors.

We are legally married already.

No father/daughter or mother/son dances.

My son is walking me down the aisle.

No bouquet toss or garter.

He helped me pick my dress out.

No bouttenieres (sorry bout that spelling...)

Assigned seating.

Our wedding will be very non traditional.

We also have no ushers.

Invited some but not all children.

No one will be walking our mommas down the aisle.