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K & H
Expert September 2011

How are you paying for your wedding??

K & H, on June 17, 2011 at 11:53 AM Posted in Do It Yourself 0 54

Because this is my second marriage and first wedding for FH but his mom is retired and father is deceased we are paying for our own wedding.

We have a 6k budget for about 175, but this does not include dress, rings, or honeymoon. We are fortunate enough to have a rental property which is basically paying for our wedding, with a little help from our income. We refuse to start our marriage in debt trying to pay for a wedding.

To all the brides/couples paying for your own wedding, how are you footing the bill?

Are you charging the whole thing?

Working a second job?

Dipping into savings?

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Latest activity by Alexis, on August 25, 2022 at 12:41 PM
  • Kristin
    Dedicated November 2011
    Kristin ·
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    Our wedding is costing us about $45,000

    $22,500 - I will be paying

    $10,000 - FI will be paying (he also pays 90% of the household bills)

    $5,000 - From my parents

    Rehearsal Dinner - FI's parents (not included in $45k)

    The rest, $7,500, will have to go on credit cards and paid off shortly after the wedding (probably use money we receive from guests and tax return money).

    Oh, and we still have to figure out how to pay for the honeymoon...which isn't included in the $45,000.

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  • Raptor Bride
    Master May 2011
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    We put away money every paycheck and were able to pay for it by saving, and with our taxes. Our wedding was 8,500.

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  • StankaMonsta
    Super October 2011
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    We are using all of our savings and a little on credit card to whihc we hope to get a lot of cash gifts to pay off along with tax refunds!

    I set a budget of 10,000 but we may hit 12,000!

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  • Heather
    VIP October 2011
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    We are paying for the majority of it ourselves, not on credit, with a little help from our families. We are also doing a honeymoon fund so hopefully that will alleviate a bit of cost for us there.

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  • Shellie
    VIP July 2012
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    As of right now FH and I are paying for the whole thing out selves. We are both collage students (well, he stopped going as of the end of april for a couple reasons- one is so he could get a full time job) and don't have high paying jobs.

    80% wedding budget is money I've saved from Christmas, birthdays, tax returns, etc. So yes- we are dipping into our savings. I refuse to charge anything. I know it's not good to use up all your savings- but i'd rather do that then create debt.

    The other 20% is money we have/are saved/ing up. I only make about $400 a month- but i put about $40-$60 into saving each month.

    Luckily my rent and car insurance are paid for me each month because I'm in school- so my only bills are utilities, groceries, gas, food, etc. Moving closer to my work and school is saving me about $50 a month in gas so that will get put into the wedding fund as well.

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  • His Rib
    Super August 2011
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    We have a small budget as well and we are paying for everything as we I....My dad bought my dress and paid for the photographer.

    I am paying for everything...FH is buying the ring and we are both paying for the honeymoon.

    I am really contemplating whether I should dip into my savings to buy a few things that I really need to get or should I wait until next week when I get paid....I know I will have to dip into my savings at some point....

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  • Patricia
    Master December 2011
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    FH and I are paying for our own, so we've been saving a lot since we got engaged in 09. It's been like an bill that I have to pay, each time I get paid, I have to take out at least $200 sometimes twice that amount or more to give to FH to put in our weddding account, we cut a lot of things in our lives, I stop buying VS, stop shopping every friday. Downgrading a lot of things, like cable, wash my own hair and only get perms at the salon, don't do the pedi/mani as often as I used to, I do them on my own most the time. I cook more often so I don't keep buying food when I go to work, this saves me a lot.

    It's been a great experience, we've saved so much by doing these things, I wish I was doing this all my life, I would have decent money in my savings by now, I've learned to live with what I have instead of complaining that I need this or that. I controlled and evaluate my needs vs my wants.

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  • Lacy
    Master October 2017
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    We used taxes, savings bonds, savings, and money from our paychecks -- total of $7000, uncluding rings and honeymoon. MIL, FIL, and DS's aunt paid for the rehearsal dinner, which ended up being $2000.

    Between my mom and sister, I think they contributed like $300, maybe $400.

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  • Will be Mrs B
    VIP October 2011
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    Most is from my parents, his parents are paying for the Rehearsal Dinner and then we are paying for part of it ourselves as well

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  • MrsBJ
    Devoted September 2011
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    Everything is being paid for by Me and my FH. MY sister was gonna get my cake but I decided against doing that

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  • Fonsetta
    Super July 2011
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    FH and I are paying for everything. He has worked a heapload of OT since we got engaged which allowed us the ability to pay for everything without going into debt.

    Our wedding budget is 15k

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  • Susy
    VIP September 2011
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    We are paying for it ourselves. MY FH moved in with me, so his expenses are lower and he puts a $1000 a month into the wedding account. I pay all the house bills and many others, he pays his personal bills, and I put in each month also. My aunt helped with flowers, centerpieces and my dress, but other then that, we are paying it all in cash. My fH doesn't believe in debt at all or CC so my ring was paid off by him before he started putting into the wedding account. Our wedding is at about 23K but that doesn't include the rings. He has already given me a placeholder rign and my e-ring. we are having custom bands made as well.

    As for the honeymoon we are taking a minimoon but next year we are changing in all my Frequent flyers to take the HM.

    Also my FH picks up odd jobs here and there to pay for it.

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  • KRISTINA
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    FH and I are paying for our wedding. I have been putting money aside each month and then we will also be using our tax return. We will not be charging anything to any credit card. If we can't afford it by the time our wedding comes then we aren't getting it. Simple as that.

    I am not sure about the honeymoon yet. FMIL offered once to pay for it, but a lot has happened since then so do not know if she still is going to. If she does then great... and if she can't then that's okay too and is completely understandable -- we will just take one later down the road, perhaps on our 1 year anniversary.

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  • Tameka
    Expert April 2012
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    Me and Fh pay monthly payments towards everything. We avoiding using CC and don't wanna go in debt.. I was thinking off getting a part-time job just for extras

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  • ~
    VIP September 2011
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    Majority of the wedding is being paid my my FH and I -

    So far we have been lucky enough to save the money needed from our paychecks and tax returns and have paid for everything without needing to take any loans or use credit cards - so far (we lost some $ over the winter/spring months due to business being really slow and some unexpected issues arising) I was going to try to apply for a small loan a few months back but decided to hold off and use that only as an emergency back-up plan in the event we do not save up all the money we need by the end of the summer. FH works as a salesman and his busiest selling time is in the summer so luckily he has been getting some pretty large sales the last couple months.

    My parents are helping out where they can too - my dad gave us 4k and my mom and step-dad have contributed about 5-6k

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  • Christine
    Beginner September 2011
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    Our wedding budget is $30K for 120-125 people. My parents paid for my dress and limo. Fiancee's parents have given us $10K. Pluse they are paying for the rehearsal dinner. The rest ($20K) we are paying for ourselves. We had a long engagement (16 months) so we had time to save and use tax returns and bonuses to afford everything. Total budget does not include the honeymoon.

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  • Mrs. Robinson
    Expert August 2011
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    CASH! I set a budget of $15,000 and I will be under that budget if he stops inviting ppl. Everything is paid for except the venue. We are paying for it ourselves ne help except for $39.00 in flowers that my step-mom is making!

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  • dragonfly726
    Master October 2011
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    My parents are giving us $2,000 toward the hall and ceremony venue. FILs are contributing about $1,000-1,500 by purchasing the plates/cups/napkins, some of the food, and paying the balance on our DJ. We are paying the other $5,000 or so. We've been saving/paying as we go, taking a little here and there out of our paychecks to put into the "wedding account" aka my savings. Right now it looks as if we'll have a couple hundred dollars wiggle room when we get to the end, but if we have to go over by one or two hundred dollars, we would put that much on a credit card because we know we have the means to pay that off in a couple of months.

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  • Andrea
    Expert July 2011
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    I had put away $5500 in savings for a special occasion when I was in college. Turns out that special occasion ended up being our wedding. So I contributed that much, FH matched my contribution. FH made a contribution in honour of his mother who passed away, my parents made a contribution and FH's father made a contribution. Everybody made cash/check contributions so we ended up with a lump fund to work with to pay for the wedding, the honeymoon, and hopefully a bit of getting our lives set up in Japan. No debt for us.

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  • J
    Beginner July 2012
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    Have no idea!

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