How best to state our wedding is no children allowed?

People will mostly say just write the name of the guests invited and the number of seats reserved so they get the idea it's just adults. But I've seen a lot of people also write things such as adults only, make it a date night, etc.

I have seen on other posts that the invites have "An Adults Only Affair" or something to that effect at the bottom of invites.

You shouldn't specifically state no kids, you only invite the parents. So for example, your invite should be to "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" not "The Smith Family".

Also to avoid this, we put on each RSVP card how many seats were reserved in their honor. So if they saw we only reserved two seats, that implied no children. If guests were still confused, some of them texted or called to ask and we just stated what you said, we had room restrictions and we couldn't accommodate kids.

I don't think its appropriate to say "adults only" somewhere except maybe your website but even then people will get the hint. And you definitely don't need to be cheesy and tell people to "make it a date night."

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I completely agree and couldn't have put any better

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Melle,

That is a cute idea. This whole thing has been nerve wracking, my whole side of my family have done nothing but produce (although adorable children) a city's worth of children in the last 5-10 years...I just feel like it's too much to ask someone that has invited you to their wedding to accommodate you and your 5+ kids, when we have 100 guests that are adults alone. Children would add another 35-40 bodies we cant afford to have.

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Thank you! Okay, that makes me feel better. I want nothing more than to have all of the family there but it really isn't feasible for us - and quite frankly, we aren't trying to start this marriage scrambling to pay for things we cannot afford.

My FH and I are doing a "no kids" wedding too, except for the ring bearer in the wedding party. On my invitations, I only invited "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe" and then I put this saying on a small card and put it in our invitations. I thought it was a cute saying and maybe a nicer way to break it to people to not bring children.

In order to allow all guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!

Love,

Mike & Brittany

I would address the save the date & invite directly to the parents so "Mr. & Mrs. Smith". Then on the RSVP card put "___ out of ___ attending" and fill out the second line. You could also put it on your wedding website FAQs.

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That is a wonderful idea. Its a delicate subject, and how you have it worded is just about perfection. Thank you so much!

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Sounds like we will have to get the wedding website set up to get this covered as well. Thank you all so much for the input! Wedding jitters are getting to me already!

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I agree with this 100%!