My boyfriend of 3 years has a tendency to talk about our personal problems with his male and female friends. (He is my fiance, but we are talking about cancelling the wedding.) This is embarrassing for me and makes it difficult for me to face his friends later because I am a very private person, and I grew up in a culture where you do not air your dirty laundry. Also, it is a sore point that he talks to female friends about our personal problems because emotional affairs are often known to begin this way.
I understand that many people are just very open about their personal problems, and he's just one of those people. If I am going to be with him, how can I cope with this tendency of his? Should I be talking to my friends about our personal problems as a way for me to cope? Is that just something most people do? It seems to me that it would be wrong if I did that, since I know how disrespected I feel when he talks to his friends about us, but I guess it would at least be more fair.