How close are you to your bridesmaids?

My bridal party is my brother, my current BFF, my bff from school, and a girl that I was very close to for 4 years after college. I don’t live near any of them anymore, but we’ve been very close at one point in our lives. My current bff and I chat almost every day even though we’re across the country.

Can I ask why you want her has your brides maid? Minevare my sister and nieces so I am close with all of them.

My best friend of 16 years, 2 of my cousins and 1 of my very close friends. I wouldn’t choose anyone I wasn’t close with to be in my wedding as I want to have already had an awesome relationship with the ladies I’m asking to be apart of such a special day.

Is it a must to ask these ladies if you aren’t really close with them? I’d just keep my bridal party small if this was the case

Very close. One of them is the brother, the other 3 we talk everyday

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Most of it is that she and I get along REALLY well. And it's not like she and I couldn't be close friends if we hung out more. We don't hang out without our SO's because it's a bit of a drive to go out there and basically if I tell FH that I want to go over there, he comes with since he's really good friends with her SO. It's also really hard to get our work schedules to line up in such a way that we can hang out without the guys.

Another reason is because I don't have a lot of friends here. I moved to Florida 3 years ago, and all my friends from Idaho won't be able to come to the wedding (due to the cost to fly themselves and their families out), or aren't close enough to invite to the wedding. and while she and I may not be super close, we are good enough friends for me to consider her as a BM.

Super close to all of them except one, who happens to be one of my sisters. We've never had a super close relationship.

I opted out of having a bridal party. There was no way I could choose between my friends.

I had 10 and I am really close with all of them. I may not talk to all of them weekly as we live all over the country and have our own families now. But they are all people I could call at any time of day and know they would drop whatever they were doing to help me with whatever I needed. They also are all people who have gotten me thru different points of my life.

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It's not like she and I don't have the potential to be close friends, it's more we haven't given ourselves the opportunity. When we hang out we always have fun, but we don't hang out as much as I do with the other 3.

Unfortunately, my FH has 10 groomsmen to my potentially 7 bridesmaids. so keeping it small isn't really an option at this point since he kinda jumped the gun.

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See, D would drop anything if I needed her help, which is one reason I'm considering her. We just haven't given ourselves the opportunity to get close to each other.

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That's how I am with one of my sisters too, but she's not being included in my wedding stuff other than as a guest for a different reason that's a bit petty on my part ( she didn't invite me to her wedding 5 years ago even though I asked when she was sending an invitation.) but also the reason I don't try to be close to her. our interactions are awkward at best...

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I totally get that! When I was in Idaho I couldn't choose either (this was before I was engaged) and at that point would have just had family included.

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I totally get that! It's awesome that you two talk almost every day!

I’m having 7 and I’m very close to all of them. I’m having a matron of honor who’s my high school best friend (she’s actually getting married this June), I’ll have 2 maids of honor because they’re my sisters and I wouldn’t choose one over the other, 4 bridesmaids one whom consist of my cousin and the other 3 are FH’s nieces.

My bridal party is my sister in-law (matron of honor), two cousins, my sister, and my fiancé’s sister. Atleast it was anyway, but I am pretty close to all of them. We’re inviting then to our elopement so they don’t feel left out. Not to mention we intend to do a big wedding at a later date. So, it’s not like they’re not going to be my bridal party later

I have 3. 1 is my best friend since I was 10 the other 2 are cousins. So pretty close.

Personally, I would just have the people you're really close to. You don't need to have many (or any at all). If only selecting those close to you means just one or two, there is nothing wrong with that. If you have a brother or male friend who is closer than the less-close lady, you could also have a bridesman. Being a bridesmaid is also a lot of cost in terms of money and/or time, so I would be really uncomfortable asking (or being asked) that of someone who I wasn't really close to.

My matron of honor is my older adopted sister, my maid of honor is my best friend of 10 years. I also have my 2 childhood cousins, and my FH’s sister. I haven’t talked to the cousins in years (apart from recently for the wedding) but they are close to my heart from my childhood, and FH’s sister I ended up adding in because she has helped me so much when she didn’t have to. Plus I knew her before I knew him.

i had a 2nd maid of honor who was my best friend of 3 years but there was major drama between us and we are no longer friends nor is she and her family invited.

I was and am super close to my bridesmaids. I only had two. I wouldn't have cared if my husband picked 10 dudes, I would have picked my two and that's it. Those are the girls that when I closed my eyes and pictured my wedding day, they were with me. When I picture my life? Those girls are with me still.

Don't add someone just to have even numbers. Add them if you can not see your day without them.

Someone that didn't like my husband would not have been included.

I'm in a different state than all my bride people, so there’s definitely been some drifting apart but we still text and talk and try to have virtual girls nights once a month. At the end of the day, their still my people and we’re all pretty close.