How close are you to your bridesmaids?

My bridal party is my sister we have a decent relationship wouldn't say super close, my best friend who I'm really close with i call her my sister and my three step daughters we're close I became a good friend to them vs a step parent to them.

I have a large group I have 8, 6 BMS; 1 MOH 1 JR BM.

1 MOH is my best friend since HS. 4 of my BMS are my cousins and my 1 Jr is my niece/god daughter and my 2 BMs are 2 of my closest friends.

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Exactly my thoughts, which is why I've asked her! She got really excited and said yes, and on Wednesday we're going to David's Bridal to look at maid's dresses. I also asked FH's sister and his brother's girlfriend/baby momma, and they're both really excited and I'm going with them and one of my other preexisting bridesmaids tomorrow! we would all be going at the same time, but there is limited car room and none of them have their own car or they don't drive.

View Quoted Comment Great!! I’m so glad to hear they were so happy! And honestly that helps me a little too - the BM’s wife I’m still nervous about asking (mostly because of reading so many forums that say you should only ever ask your “nearest & dearest”) so that’s so great to hear that yours went so well too! I hope everything goes smoothly with your bridal party - and I’m sure it all will! 😊

I have 4 bridesmaids and 2 junior bridesmaids. My MOH is my best friend, but to be honest, our lives are so busy that we don't "hang out" or even talk on a regular basis. Then I have my step sister, FH's sister, and FH's brother's wife. My step sister lives in another state, but we get a long great. FH's sister and I are so much alike, but haven't really built that close friendship yet. And then there is FH's brother's wife. My biggest regret! I asked her to be a bridesmaid so she didn't feel left out and in hopes that it would build our relationship...big mistake....we had a falling out around Thanksgiving, and now I'm stuck with someone with so much tension between us. Ugh! Anyways, my two Jr. Bridesmaids are my future step daughter and FH's niece. I have 3 friends that I would of really liked to be bridesmaids, but didn't so I could include FH's family. I really wish I didn't do that, because you really should only have people up there that you really want up there with you. If I were you, I'd keep it to the ones that mean the most to you!

My bridal party is my SIL (I've known her for roughly 5/6 years), and my 3 best friends, one I've known my whole life, the other two I've known since high school. My SIL isn't close with them, but we all get along very well.

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I think that since there's already an established relationship that's good and has the potential to be better, there's not much of a risk. Also, It wasn't as awkward as you'd think. I know that everyone says to only have nearest and dearest, but I think that you should ask whoever you want because in the end it's who YOU want up there with you and not necessarily who is closest to you. If that were the case then I'd have 3 more ladies up there with me.

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I've had 2 people that I asked that I have had a falling out with, and they were BOTH girls that I considered best friends- my first MOH ~WAS~ my best friend (since 6th grade, mind you) before she basically said that she didn't want to be friends with me anymore and dropped out of the wedding party. Until that point, i had still considered her my absolute best friend, but clearly she didn't feel the same.

The other was another girl that I was super close with but because of her actions we had a falling out and I told her I didn't want her to be in my wedding since she was behaving that way and treating me like I wasn't important to her and a bunch of other wedding related things (I actually changed my colors for her slightly- I switched my MOH being in green to my maid's being in green because SHE didn't wear purple... It worked out in the end with me liking it better that way, but it was uncalled for that she refused to wear purple.) So at that time we stopped talking for a bit, but because I didn't want to leave our relationship with a big argument, and she had my coffee pot that I lent her, I used the excuse of getting my coffee pot back to go over there and make her talk through our issues. She and I made up, but I still didn't take back kicking her out of the wedding party. Since then, I had thought things were going pretty well, but I had gotten busy with work more and it just got more and more difficult for me to hang out with her. She stopped talking to me after I had gone a few weeks with not being able to hang out with her because of work or being low on gas, and I guess she got upset about me not being able to make time for her (which wasn't the case), and she started avoiding me. So upon confronting her via text, I get no response and don't know if that's what actually happened, or if there was something else that I may have done or said to upset her. So even though she was one of my closest friends and I even considered her a best friend ( we had matching purses for crying out loud!), kicking her out of my wedding party due to drama was probably the best thing I did for myself. So if I'm willing to kick her out or the wedding, I have no problems with kicking my less close friend out if there's a falling out.

In my opinion, you're never really STUCK with anyone, you just have to consider if risking your friendship with them permanently is worth not having them in your wedding, and it sounds like you decided that you think the friendship is salvageable.

I would say I’m pretty close with all of my bridesmaids. That’s the reason I am choosing them to take part in my wedding. BMs include my sister (MOH), cousin, high school friends, & former coworkers turned close friends. Most of the girls were there for me when FH & I split for a bit and so I know I can count on them in good times and in bad.

I have a very small party, just a Matron of Honor and a Maid of Honor. Both are friends I've had for over 10 years, one of whom was my roommate in college and the other made me her MOH in her wedding a few years ago. We text pretty much every day, but I only hang out with them every few weeks or so since we're all busy with our grown-up lives lol.

I have a lot of girl friends from college and high school who I consider myself close with as well, but I decided to have a small party to fit my budget. I will still be inviting those other friends to the wedding, bridal shower, and bachelorette party, though!

I have 5 bridesmaids. My cousin who I'm close with, my sister in law I am fairly close with, my FH younger sister who id say were close but not best friends yet or anything. My FH best friend from childhood who i consider a very good friend even though i dont see her very often she is great help with everything, and then one more friend who i dont consider being very close to but shes a good friend.

I kept my bridal party sort of small, FH wanted a few more but I only wanted girls that I’m close with. Have my two sisters who are wayyy older than me, but we’ve become pretty close over the past 5 years. Also have my bff from grade school and my bff from post college. I don’t talk to any of them weekly, sometimes not even for months, but that’s because we live across the country.