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Expert September 2021

How comfortable are you and your S.o?

MK, on April 1, 2021 at 10:56 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 37

My friends tease my fiancé and I because we have this barrier between sexy and comfortable that I, way more-so than him, will not break -- for example, the thought of passing gas in front of him makes me want to die LOL. If he does it, I literally blush and he just laughs at me. He also works night shifts, and on his work weekends, I set an alarm for an hour before he gets home (6AM) to take a shower so I'm freshly shaved before he gets in bed because God forbid I'm prickly when he tries something!

My family says this will pass with time, but I'm not sure that it will, haha!

Anyone else this way?! Or have you and your S.O completely knocked down that barrier?

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on April 5, 2021 at 3:59 PM
  • Tone
    Devoted July 2021
    Tone ·
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    My fiancé and I don’t have much of that barrier anymore, but he has literally had his hands inside one of my open wounds (he had to take care of me post op) so I don’t think there’s anything that can top that.
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    Master July 2019
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    Oh wow....we passed that barrier about a year into our relationship. I feel like I need to be comfortable in my own home, and if he doesn't like my prickly legs when I'm too lazy to shave well...that's his problem lol. We do a lot for each other to show we care, but that's just not 1 of them.
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    June 2021
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    It’s been 10 Years of living together. We share a bank account, I call him my husband and he calls me his wife. There’s been times where he was in the hospital, they’ve been times where I was in the hospital or When he got his wisdom teeth taken out, when I had surgery etc. At that point for me personally is when the shame sort of just mildly fizzled out more and more. I still try to keep it classy.
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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
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    I should have probably clarified! This is not a thing of my fiancé's, he couldn't care less. It's all me!

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  • SLY
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    We had that barrier when we first started dating! We've been together for 7 years and have lived together for the same amount of time almost lol. We both had Covid at the same time last March, the stomach bug last year, had food poisoning last month, and have cared for one another through it all lol.

    The only thing I try to not do in front of him is burping, but only because we both hate it lol. We're pretty relaxed other than that, and are really comfortable with each other! I used to care so much about shaving and hiding stuff from him, like when I'm on my period lol, but I figured if we have girls, and something happens to me, I want him to be able to be the dad that they can talk to about that. Also, if he can't accept me when I'm a little prickly and bloated, I don't want him hahaha!

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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
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    Everyone's different! If that's something that makes you more comfortable when he gets home, then do it girl! No shame in that! Smiley winking

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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
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    Oh wow! I get that! I wouldn't apply my comfort logic for us in terms of sickness. We've been sea sick together and literally watched each other puke over the side of the boat! LOL It's more of MY bodily things, if that makes sense! That's very sweet that you two take care of each other!

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    June 2021
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    OK… Story time… So this may be a little bit TMI for everyone, but it’s a story that makes me laugh when I tell it till this day. So I had to have a colonoscopy done A few years back... I don’t know if you’ve ever had a colonoscopy, but once you wake up from the procedure, you go into a recovery area that separates you from other patients with just a curtains, it’s not an actual room with walls. So he was in there with me while I was waking up and they want you to pass gas after the procedure for whatever reason. Like they basically wouldn’t let me leave unless I farted. I was telling my fiancé I can NOT fart with strangers. Like my body just won’t do it! So we are behind the curtain and they are waiting for me to buy for gas and they are on the other side. my fiancé goes, “babe get ready for this”.... He rips monster fart! And then the nurse on the other side of the curtain was like ohh great job!! Thinking it was me!!!! They were like OK that’s enough you can get released now 😂 I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so hard in my entire life!
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    Haha no, I feel you. If that's what you want, by all means, you do you. I personally prefer the relationship husband and I have now where there's no barriers or secrets or mysteries. We are who we are, and if in stubble or have to fart....it is what it is.
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    Hahaha oh gosh I couldn't imagine getting sea sick together haha! I totally get it, I would lock the door when I used the restroom so he wouldn't accidentally barge in lol. And I shaved like everyday and hid girl stuff from him lol. It just got so exhausting for me to worry about what he thinks so I just asked him if he really cared that much and he said 'nope!' 😂 Ever since I've relaxed SO much.

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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
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    Oh no! Hiding things would be hard! I use to try to avoid asking him to grab tampons from the store if he happened to be going, but one day, he literally says "I'm at target, do you need anything? Wine? Tampons?", so now I'm way more laid back with that! I don't even know why I get so embarrassed LOL. We've been going to dinner with my parents before and when someone request a certain food, my dad says "No, that tears me up." and I was red. I have no clue why!

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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
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    LOL no, that is funny! Love him making light of your not so fun procedure, too! I'm sure that made you feel better. I probably would have still died a little inside at this but while laughing haha!

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  • Ava
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    Oh my gosh, you need to watch the video breaking the barrier! 🤣🤣 (I will link it below)


    As far as your question, I am completely with you! There are just certain boundaries you do not cross! Passing gas is definitely one of the top ones in our household. Luckily, I am just not a gassy person LOL But FH will excuse himself from the room if he needs to “relieve” himself. Also, no leaving bathroom doors open when using the facilities! When we first moved into our place, there were no locks on any of the bathroom doors! That was one of the first things we did LOL
    https://youtu.be/-_zs-3ofyo8
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  • Ava
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    Oh, and the shaving thing used to be one of my “things” too! I finally just got laser hair removal so I don’t have to worry about it LOL
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    OMG 😂😂😂😂 This is great!!
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  • Ava
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    Btw, if the link won’t work (because it often doesn’t with YouTube)... just YouTube search “Breaking the barrier“
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  • Lisa
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    My fiancé and I have been together for almost 10 years... we don't really have any barriers or things that embarrass us in front of each other. If we fart, we say excuse me, laugh, and go on our way.

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    Together for over twenty years, married for over fifteen... no barriers. He cleaned my bloody slobber off my chin after my wisdom teeth were removed (I couldn't feel my face) and we've been through our share of really... really bad stomach viruses.

    I don't even bother shaving my legs anymore (like maybe 1-2 times a year) and he just says "you barely even have leg hair, what are you worried about?"

    We do still say excuse me/sorry when we fart, though.

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  • Kimberly
    Super March 2021
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    Not much for barriers for us. I don’t shave everyday and let me tell you I have some prickly legs. He doesn’t mind.
    I don’t pass gas in front of him though. Partly because I’m not a very gassy person and partly because of embarrassment. However, when we both had Covid and I finally was able to throw up (it was seriously days of feeling nauseous), the force of throwing up made me pee on the rug (thank you child birth). Yikes!!! He was right there to help me though. So yeah, we don’t really have too many barriers.
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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
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    I'm glad I'm not the only one! I just really like that some of those territories are untouched in our relationship. Some things are just better left to do in private, in my opinion! Oh my gosh, the locks would have killed me! We would have had them installed day one, too! LOL

    I will have to watch!!

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