How common is it for brides to want their bridesmaids to dye their hair?

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Yes. This is why I wanted to ask here if this was a thing. I wasn't really sure if a Reddit post was real or someone looking for attention. I know on Reddit a lot of the advice and relationship subreddits are full of people making up stories. But it does seem to happen.

View Quoted Comment You would be surprised at some weddings people have that don't get any publicity where they have zero consideration for anyone but themselves. So while it isn't what the majority raised with good manners would ever have, it does happen more often than you think. But it's not a common occurrence and most friends/relatives of these will put their foot down and not participate while others see nothing wrong with it.

I couldn’t even imagine lol. My MOH was literally going to dye her hair rainbow and I told her that was fine if she wanted 😂 ultimately she decided not to because she figured she’d hate herself in the pictures in 10 years hahaha, but I wasn’t going to stop her 🤷🏻‍♀️ She’s not a prop, she can look how she wants

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I did consider refusing, and I think I was within my rights to say no. But she didn't imply that I was ugly, or anything like that. and she didn't try to make me look less flattering. It was about the aesthetic for the wedding so I didn't take it personally.

She's a bridesmaid in my wedding, and she did say that I could dye her hair whatever color I wanted for my wedding lol.

If anyone asked me before last year, I would have scoffed at the idea. But my friend asked me to dye my hair for her wedding and I did. Like the other poster upthread, I had red hair, but the bride picked out a pink bridesmaids gown. She asked me to dye my hair because it clashed with the dress. I was reluctant at first, but she had a point, red hair and a pink dress would have clashed horribly. I ended up dyeing my hair a nice shade of chestnut brown.

It was very bridezillaish, but I don't regret it. I didn't want to look bad in a close friend's wedding. The hair dye washed out after a few washes. At the end of the day, it was no big deal. She could have picked another color for the dress though.

Girl! I’ve been someone who has colored their hair all the colors of the rainbow. I got married October 9th of this year, and basically told my bridesmaids they can have whatever hair they want. I never knew that this was actually a thing. This is definitely a bridezilla thing. If not idk. I could never ask for my bridesmaids to change their hair KNOWING they color their hair.

Asking someone to dye their hair is definitely a bridezilla thing. I have never dyed my hair (except for a few streaks of color when I was an awkward tween), and would be horrified to feel made to do it by someone I considered a friend.

Also it's one thing to ask, another to push or insist, and there are nuances to these situations as well. If you have a friend who is always dying their hair and changing colors, I could see you suggesting that they have it be a certain color (or not be a certain color) to align with your wedding. I could also see a bride asking a member of the wedding party to hold off on dying their hair an extreme color until after the wedding (say your natural brunette friend who has never dyed her hair before is dying to do hot pink hair and your wedding is just a few weeks away). But in general, I would consider the request to dye hair a deal breaker for being in someone's wedding and a perfectly good reason for any maid to bow out of a bridezilla's wedding party.