How do did you know your partner was the one?

My friend asked me this recently!

as cliche as it sounds i honestly knew. i felt like i was overwhelmingly guaranteed it. like i could be uncertain of so many things in life but yet the one thing i knew for 110% sure was that he was the one for me. people tend to say "when you know, you know". for me that was true because i knew while we were friends - we didn't even date yet haha. but i just got to know him as a person and felt like his character and values were what i wanted in a partner and the feeling i get around him where i just looked at him and could see my future.

I knew because we compliment each other in so many ways. We both enjoy each others company and yet both need some time to ourselves and are comfortable with it. We both make each other happy and have great communication with each other. I realized the other day that for the first time ever I finally found someone where I dont want to do most things outside of the house unless he is there to join me. The fact that his family likes me and my family likes him is a huge bonus.

I knew he was the one because we shared all core values. We are super similar which is what I wanted as psychology studies do show the more similar you are to your partner the more likely you are to succeed in marriage. Although it can also happen with opposites it’s still higher when the couple is similar. Our chemistry was undeniable and we felt comfortable with each other from the start and instead of nervousness I felt peace. We also share the same goals in life. He had all the qualities I wanted so with all these things in consideration I knew he was the one

It was just this overwhelming feeling about 7 or 8 months into dating where it just hit me that the best day of my life without this person in it was nothing compared to our worst day together. He is my first and only partner. We met when I was 23 after I had been living completely independently and happily for about 2.5 years post-college. I LOVED being single and doing my own thing, having my own space, building my career, etc. Getting into a relationship with someone wasn't really even on my radar, I was only dating to go out to dinner and meet new people and have fun. Something was just different with my husband; after about the third or fourth date I knew I was in for a relationship or massive heartbreak if he didn't feel the same way.

Mine was a slow burn. I had been in a particularly toxic relationship in the years before this one. I had been single for a while, but the previous relationship was toxic enough that I was extremely wary of making the same mistakes. Even after we said I love you, I still had guards up. I regularly asked myself if I wanted this, if being single would be better, if I felt like this was a good decision. LOL well, years later, it was the best decision. He is incredible, insanely supportive, so sweet, and the best friend I'll ever have. We don't often fight - if we do, it's mostly just a misunderstanding, and discussion to clear it up. We both try really hard to be actively supportive and do our part. I was the one who brought of the topic of marriage. We had already decided that we wanted to be together, but the legal ceremony idea was mine. In the months leading up to that, I again thought long and hard about if this is really really someone I want to be tied to. IMO, marriage is a BIG step. And I'm not one to take large steps lightly. But after a few weeks of mulling it over, yep. He's the one. He's my best friend. He's perfect for me. We're both very excited to get married to each other. But it was a long road to feel this sure.

My favorite thing about my fiancé is how much he makes me laugh. It seems so simple and not something that is always at the top of the list when looking for a partner, but having someone that is constantly bringing joy into my life has been such a blessing.

When we first met I felt such a connection to him. It was so hard to articulate at the time, and I just chalked it up to a silly crush or something, but it felt bigger somehow. He took such an interest in my life right off the bat, really wanted to get to know me and lift me up, and when I took him to meet my parents, even they thought he was The One™.

I knew he was the one when I saw his artwork and the careful detail he applies to ensuring that he is capturing every nuance of human emotion through art. For context he is not a professional artist he works in television. His art is something he does on the side as a hobby. When I observe his commitment to visualizing the human condition via art or via stories he writes and produces I thought to myself if a person is that in tune with others then he will be with me and he has. I love how consistent he is and he always strives to make me feel like we are on the longest first date ever, and absolutely the most prioritized person in his life. One thing he does that I adore is turn my bed back and every morning and his good morning beautiful text. He’s just perfect for me. 💙💍💙

So bare with me on this! And please no judgment!


I was 17when I met my soon to be husband. He had just moved next door to me. I had met his then girlfriend and mother of his child and thought she lived there by her self. He was always working and my brother was over there ALOT (my brother 18 at the time). Well, my mom asks me to go next door and let my brother know that dinner was ready. So I go over there, knock on the door and there stands this tall gorgeously breath taking man. With the most confused look on his face asks whom I am and what I was doing on his porch lol. After I closed my mouth (because yes my mouth dropped open when I first laid eyes on him) I as quickly as i could said “I’m leeann. My brother is over here. Mom said dinner is done. OKAY BYYYYEEEE” I literally knew the VERY SECOND my eyes landed on him that he is my person. My one. My other half to my soul. I didn’t know him, I didn’t know his name. I just knew I couldn’t be with him. He is about 8yrs older than me, at the time had a kid and a girlfriend and I’m just not gonna ruin things! Plus I was jail bait at the time. Over the years, I kept my distance tho my brother is what kept us all connected. When he finally proposed to his girlfriend at the time and mother of his child I was invited to the wedding. My brother asked me the day of if I was gonna go. I told him very seriously “no. If I go I’ll object to their wedding and I’m not gonna ruin someone else’s happiness over something that’s only in my head.” Well, years later they divorce and me and my now fiancé start to build a friendship. I didn’t just jump into the relationship with him as he and I both had a lot of growing to do. We had both been through so much over those years and really needed to heal before becoming a us. A little voice always spoke in my head “he’s the one. Just not right now.” She kept saying that to me. Until one day she said “nows the time. Now you are ready.” I was 24yrs old when my time with the love of my life finally came. Now I am almost 26 and we wed next year!
I know my story isn’t like lost. I know it has a lot of “what” moments and “that’s not right” but I promise I was respectful and never did anything nor did he til many years later. I also learned that had a feeling from the moment he met me that I was the one for him. But he wrote it off as well because of the age and because he already had a family and didn’t want to destroy it.

I don’t decisions very easily.. I’m a very indecisive person.. but one person whose stuck in my heart since we met in kindergarten was him.. lost touch and communication for years then reconnected after high school.. went through a lot of ups downs breakups tears and laughter through the last ten years.. but one thing I always knew was he was my forever.. no matter how many times he would say he’s never getting married and essentially never growing up. I knew in my heart that one day he would change his mind.. that day came last Christmas when he asked me in the spot of our first date to be his wife. After ten years of joy and sarrow I couldn’t imagine doing life with out him by my side. 🥰

I knew my fiance was the one because I could be myself around him. I am sort of a quirky, nerdy kinda girl and love exploring different places and things. In my first marriage, I didn't feel like I could do that and had to pretend that I wasn't interested or didn't like certain things because of what fits my racial background. He listened to me and was very observant. I remember we had talked one night about some of our favorite childhood memories. We started talking about our favorite candies. That following week, he gave me a gift bag full of all the candies that I had mentioned. It was so thoughtful. We met at church. He was the new choir director coming in and I was the choir president. Initially we flirted. It was nothing serious. He had my number for about a month before he actually called me...(he swears that's not true but I know it is because I actually waited for him..lol). We had both been married and both agreed that we wanted nothing to do with love. We both said "F@%$ love"...that stuff is for the birds. We started going out and having fun together. It was a feeling that I had never experienced. I went out of town one weekend and I remember missing him so much. My friends were joking me because we stayed on the phone the majority of the trip. When I returned back home, we talked that night for hours and both decided and knew that we were inseparable. We couldn't stand to be away from one another. I feel like he loves and cares for me more than himself and would do ANYTHING to make me happy. He has been there for me in my sad, depressing and frustrating times and has given me motivation where I needed it the most. He's the best! He's the one! He's my all! # teamdavis

We started dating during covid. We went to the same college, but we were stuck 300 miles away from each other. Even though we didn't see each other the first five months of our relationship, he was intentional. He showed me that he didn't need to be in my presence to show me love. He made sure I felt loved, cared for, and protected from 300 miles away. I had never been with someone that was so intentional. We had only been together for a few weeks and I just had a feeling that we'd be together forever.

We met when we were 14 as freshman in high school. We stayed really good friends through high school into college. We went to separate schools. He went about an hour away and I stayed local and my first year in college was one of the toughest years I’ve had so far. When no one else was there for me he was. At the end of the year we hung out a lot when he first came home for the summer and we quickly realized that we wanted more than just a friendship. I knew from the beginning that I can count on him no matter what because even before getting together he always wanted to protect me even as my friend. When we got together everyone said they saw it coming from a mile away and we were the only two in the dark apparently lol. I actually found out he almost asked me on the 10th grade but a mutual friend of ours at the time told him that I would probably say no and he didn’t wanna lose me as a friend so he never asked! He says he still remembers seeing me come in to an eighth grade class that we had together and I don’t remember having it with him at all lmao. But we didn’t officially meet until the following year. I know he was the one when I was in a major car accident only four months into our relationship. He came home so many weekends from college to stay at my parents house and sleep in the living room with me and would help me get to the bathroom when I needed it. From that moment on I knew. Our eight year anniversary is in just over a week and we’ve known each other almost 13 years. We have an insane amount in common and we are attached at the hip all the time. We’re basically constantly together and even though we’ve been together so long we never get tired of each other. We love being together so much that we will be moving into an RV and traveling full-time for a few years after our wedding in October with our two cats and spending 100% of our time together as will be working remotely on the road. He’s my best friend in the whole world and I would honestly be stumbling through life lost without him

It was the first wedding we went to together and seeing him all dressed up dancing and smiling. The song “September” was playing in the background and that’s when i knew 💕

It was when we were out on one of our many dates and I shared some very personal things with him about my past. He looked at me with the same expression he always does full of love and acceptance and he told me that we would get through this together. I had never in my life had someone say that and truly mean it. Every day since he has shown me that we are a team working toward a great life together

We met on eharmony about a year ago. We met up in person a couple days after we first started talking. At first he surprised me he was so cute and considerate we hiked south mountain and then when we got to the top we kissed and I knew that he was the one. Everything we experienced since then has been a roller coaster of emotions but I wouldn't trade this relationship for the world. Because he is my world and I love him so much.

Him and I went to high school together. We never talked but I remember him being a troublemaker lol over the years we were friends on Facebook, but we didn’t pay attention to each other. He was married and I was going through my relationships. Fast forward to June 2019, I saw him and some folks from high school and gave them all a hug cause I remember them. Shortly after that, he started loving all my pics on social media lol this went on for years. Then I felt comfortable enough to send him dark humor and I knew he’d laugh. He did. We officially started communicating the end of 2021 as friends. He tried to pursue me twice but I wasn’t in the right head space. The second time was January 2022 (this year). I gave him push back again. I knew the moment I pushed him back and he said he was willing to wait on me and do a long distance relationship (traveling together), him listening to my horror stories, him communicating with me everyday, and our first meet up, he is most certainly the one. He has this softness towards me and I can rest in my feminine energy. I love this man so much and I’m looking forward to marrying him.

He pursued me relentlessly. I was just not into the idea of relationship as I was really living my single life. He gave me the best first date ever which I still feel like I’m on. But it is honestly seeing his artwork in particularly a picture that he painted of his daughters that made me think that if a man could capture their daughters so beautifully then he must certainly be a man who can capture my heart and he did. What I love about him is that he has never stopped being consistent in how he treats me from the good morning beautiful text to turning down my bed at night. He’s consistent and committed and I love that.

Given that he spilled hot coffee on me, ruining my audition and that I shouted at him calling him a jerk, it was NOT love at first sight. When we started dating, he was committed, consistent and caring, which made me believe that he was a good match. From the occasional rose on my pillow, to the sweet texts, just those simple gestures made me believe that he was the one.