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DanteNicole
Savvy April 2022

How do i get over the fact the flower girl didn't have her basket

DanteNicole, on April 8, 2022 at 4:26 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10
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So I feel beyond immature about this, and that why I wanted to kind of talk it out so that I could get over it. But on the wedding day the flower girl, my niece, didn't have her basket because my SIL and MIL forgot I gave it to my SIL the day before. Mind you, (this is why I feel extremely immature about being sad about this). My SIL was going through a lot that day because of stuff going on with my FIL, she was a lifesaver and made our wedding broom and helped with my hair, that's why I am not mad about the basket but just sad, because I treated it like a gift. I put gifts in the basket when I gave it to them and want my niece to have it. It's made out of really good wood, wanted her to have it as a keepsake. The day after when they told me they found the basket I was kind of hurt that they lost it, it was a day, and I wish I didn't know this but my niece kept asking about the basket but they weren't paying attention to what she was saying. So when I look and see she doesn't have it in the pictures I get pretty sad about it, and I wish I didn't feel they way I do because I feel immature. When my SIL apologized before leaving I did day "yeah I was sad about the basket but it is what it is, it's okay." I can't really talk about it because it's said and done, and I feel like I am the only one who cares because honestly it's a trivial thing. So I really want to get over it. Did something similar happen to you guys.

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Latest activity by DanteNicole, on April 11, 2022 at 10:42 AM
  • DanteNicole
    Savvy April 2022
    DanteNicole ·
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    I now feel a little better now that I typed it out. I think I was holding it in.
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    Master July 2019
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    Things happen. We were supposed to do the glass smashing tradition and totally forgot the glass in a box somewhere. We all almost forgot about the bouquets and boutonnières until about 5 minutes before the ceremony was about to start (they were dropped off the night before). Did I want the glass smashing as a reflection of my Jewish culture? Yes? Does not having it make me any less married? No. You said you wanted your niece to have the basket as part of her gift. That's still the case. It may not have been used at the actual ceremony but it was still a gift her aunt gave her and it isn't permanently lost.
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  • Paige
    VIP October 2022
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    It's hard when you have a vision, do everything in your power to make it happen, and then it doesn't work out. Disappointment is an emotion just like any other, and whether you want to feel it or not, it happens. It's totally normal that you feel that way. I'm sure your niece still appreciates that you thought of her and took the time to make her a nice basket.

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  • DanteNicole
    Savvy April 2022
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    I'm sorry you didn't do the glass smashing tradition! You're right, it's still a gift to my niece but they gave it back to me, and think that's where some of the hurt comes from. They wanted me to have a keep sake, and didn't understand it was a gift to her.

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    Master July 2019
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    So I would give it back and explain just that! That you want her to have it as it was a gift to her.
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  • DanteNicole
    Savvy April 2022
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    Thank you, I felt so silly about it because I know it's just a basket. And it's so cute. Maybe she'll be a flower girl again, or me and husbands future daughter might use it. Idk...But I think she did! She was the only one who remembered about the basket lol.

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  • Bird
    Super June 2021
    Bird ·
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    Aww I’m so sorry she didn’t get the beautiful and thoughtful basket/gift. I would be perturbed as well.


    Something vaguely similar/completely different happened to me haha... my flower girls basket had a plastic baggy with the petals in it? I have no idea why my florist did it like this. But you can see the plastic baggy in my professional photos and she dropped the baggy in the middle of the aisle and had to pick it back up and she was embarrassed. I honestly wish I just made the flower girl baskets myself because it still doesn’t make any sense why she would stuff the baskets with beautiful flower arrangements but leave no room for the actual petals she’s supposed to toss. Oh well. I really try not to think of it hahah
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  • Amanda
    Devoted April 2022
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    It's hard when you have a vision of your wedding set in stone and things go not as planned, but you kind of have to go with the flow if things end up not being what you pictured or rehearsed even. I

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    Expert October 2020
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    OMG! This post actually made me feel a little bit better. My flower girl forgot her flower wand. She was only 4 at the time and very much into princesses so instead of a basket she had a floral wand. I had the florist make it to match my bouquet and my Step-mother forgot to grab it. I feel exactly the same way you do and it did not make the wedding any less special but when I look at the photos I just automatically know something is missing. It makes me sad as well.


    Thank you for posting this! Sometimes we just need a place to let things out where others might understand.
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  • DanteNicole
    Savvy April 2022
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    Omg that's how I felt when I posted it 😭! I felt so silly but this comment really, REALLY, made me realize that you're not alone. Thank you!
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