How do i tell my parents im getting married??

Mom, Dad, FH and I are engaged. We'll be getting married this December and really want you to be there.

You just need to tell them in an informative way and on the soon side, September isn’t very far. “Mom and dad, we’re getting married and would love to have you there. “

It's important to go into marriage with the mind set of you and your FH before anyone. You take care of your home before taking care of anyone else's. When you get married you choose to put him before any other family. To make this happen, and set this boundary, you need to act like a confident adult(s). You go to them with excitement and happiness to show them that's how you feel despite how they feel. You don't let their feelings intertwine with yours. That's how you have an adult relationship. They will probably respect you more and see you as more of an adult if you come with more confidence with your decisions. When you hide things it shows a sign of immaturity to your parents. That's the last thing you want to do. So you need to change that dynamic starting with you if you ever want it to change with them. Be up front with them and don't ask them their feelings about it. If they give them thank them and tell them you respect them but that it's your life. As long as you act like an adult, they will come around. (I hope this didn't come off as mean. I'm not calling you immature. It's just very easy to let unhealthy dynamics make you act that way. That's what you have here. You don't want to let it ruin your marriage if this is the man you want to spend your life with, so you do need to change the dynamic now if you're capable. If not try therapy to find the strength. You can do it!)

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! this gave me even more clarity of what i need to do and the support and courage i was lacking to bring it up to them. Thank you❤️

Rip off the Band-Aid... just tell them. I would also say something about hoping they’ll not only be there for your big day but hope they get to know your future husband before the wedding. It may take some time but hopefully they’ll come around.

View Quoted Comment No problem! It's hard trying to please your parents and live in a marriage. It's not possible. You have to pick one. Don't worry though, it's all part of that transition to full on adulthood. You can make that transition respectfully, so everything should be more than fine. I believe in you girl!

I’m going to be honest with you here – if your parents have never seen this relationship as legitimate and have otherwise disapproved of your partner and taken no steps to get to know him, you announcing your engagement and impending marriage will not cause them to suddenly burst with joy and accept your partner.

As others have said, you need to rip the bandaid off and be upfront with your parents but be realistic that you may get the same reaction from them as you have in the past. Remember to keep your chin up high and remind yourself that your happiness is more important than their approval. Good luck!

I don't have advice, but I feel you. My parents most likely won't be at my wedding for somewhat similar reasons. It's really tough not having their support, but like others have said, don't let them get you down whatever the outcome. Good luck!