How do people not turn into Bridezillas

Urgh I’m sorry. That’s frustrating and not even about being a bridezilla. I also expect businesses to be professional and respect my time. I’m struggling with one vendor and not getting many responses since the contract is signed. I have faith that everything will be fine, but totally get your frustration. Especially since we pay and arm and a leg for all these wedding services.

View Quoted Comment I know! And it’s like I really do like my videographer co. They’ve been great so far, but it’s just like little things that make me want to scream. Especially when they send confirmation emails about meetings and then they say “please try to be on time “or please be near your phone. And then they just pull a no call and then barely apologize.

View Quoted Comment So rude! Did you politely tell them to stop wasting your time?

I feel you...! We recently got married in the south and all of our vendors were 5 star; however, they all had terrible communication and response skills. I started thinking it might be the norm of the wedding industry? Lol

View Quoted Comment Lol I mean as much as I wanted to, I do have to remember that these people still have to edit my video and take a good footage. I just explained to them that basically I gave them two full hours and that this is why we need to have the appointment that THEY scheduled haha

View Quoted Comment Apparently so. If I ever just pull a no call at one of my meetings at work my ass would be fired LOL! Especially if I sent an email after the person reached out to me to tell me that I missed the meeting and then I would nonchalantly say oh yeah whoops lol

View Quoted Comment Oh absolutely lol same!

View Quoted Comment Haha True! But you can still stress that your time is valuable and you’d prefer in the future if they notify you beforehand if they cannot honour a meeting. Good luck that they got your hint and will be better next time.

This happened to me with one of my vendors too, so frustrating. I’m sorry girl

I’ve had the same experience with some of our vendors also! I’m starting to think this is a “thing” amongst wedding vendors. Which is crazy to me, because they KNOW weddings are stressful and brides are freaking out trying to juggle a ton of vendors. You would think these people would be even MORE professional and organized with the industry they’re in *smh*

View Quoted Comment I know right! My fiancé is so pissed off too. But I keep telling him, it’s hard because we can’t really tell these people how we feel because who knows they’ll probably end up sabotaging our video footage or something.

View Quoted Comment I’ve been doing the same tip toe dance around these vendors too! It’s been so hard biting my tongue, but I don’t want to anger/offend them before our wedding

Lol I became such a bridezilla. Honestly so many people pushed me in so many different directions and I was under so much stress that I would just snap. I still don't like bridezillas but I get it now.

View Quoted Comment I know what you mean! My fiancé is the most laid-back guy on the planet and he’s even turning into a bridezilla LOL! He was like I can’t believe how unprofessional these people are. He’s just so pissed off too. He was like you might think they were doing it for free

The only time I got close to bridezilla-ing was when the priest denied us the church 3 1/2 months out. (AND DH had wanted to order the invites BEFORE the meeting.)

I just felt that he had put off talking to us and put off talking to us and put off talking to us and then was like, "yeah, no". And his no was partly because *he hadn't talked to us*.

So... I felt a little annoyed.

But mostly... I do theatre. I'm aware of how people don't respond, how they flake, and it's... just one day. A great, fun, amazing day.

But it's one day, and I don't need to have it be perfect.

Well, there’s bridezilla and there’s expecting the vendors to do what you paid them for. It’s a pretty high stress time.
Something I do at work is say a variation of “what do you need from me to meet this deadline?”
I also use a parenting tip a friend told me about. When we are starting a project, I get the buy in from them by stating the goal “we need this video by 2 pm on the 15th. Is that a reasonable timeline?” If they say yes, I ask issues have come up in the past that have led to a missed deadline. Then we go through how they would handle those issues if the crop up. This tend to hold people accountable. When they report a delay, I ask what caused the delay, and did X solution resolve it. I also tell them that I will be calling/emailing to check in at set intervals, and get them to agree that they’ll give me updates. Will some vendors say you are a bridezilla? Yup. But in all this, no tempers were lost, no one yelled, no one called names...that’s what a bridezilla is, not someone who expects what they paid for.