First time poster here. We got engaged recently and have gotten into the wedding planning process only for me to realize my fiancé could not care less about the wedding. This is starting to hurt my feelings because whenever I’m excited about something and I say it out loud, there’s barely a reaction or a response from him. So far we’ve booked the venue and looking into vendors. I do all the research which seems normal for the bride to be, and bring him the options (in $ amount). I just wish all the effort I was putting in creating these price comparisons, contacting so many vendors was appreciated.
I know he’s stressed about money. We’re having a south Asian wedding and he didn’t realize how much weddings in general cost, regardless of culture. I’m trying so hard to find the best deals for us. He has a mortgage and loans and everything so I get why he thinks this is a lot of money. So far he has told me the thought of spending all this money makes his stomach turn but he will accept it with time and knows we have to do it culturally. I guess to make things worse, he’s a huge car fanatic and has wanted a nicer new car for a long time. With the wedding expenses, his car dreams are pushed out further.
For example today I said “next year at this time we’ll be days leading up to the wedding! It’s gonna be so busy” and he was very uninterested and just said he hopes he can afford to buy his new car by then. It makes me feel like he doesn’t even want to marry me and like a new car is more important.
Anyone else go through this and have any advice on how to feel excited about something you’ve dreamed of forever but now that one person just doesn’t seem to care?
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