How early is too early to ask people to be part of bridal party?

Ask a year to 8 months before so they have time to get dresses. I asked my MOH formally after we booked the venue a little under two years to go, but she's the only one standing up with me.

View Quoted Comment Gotcha. My sis is going to be my MOH so glad it wasn't too early haha

I would wait to at least the year in advance, maybe 8-12 months before the wedding? I've seen quite a few posts on these forums from people who regret asking too soon, though I've never seen one where they regretted waiting to ask. That way, it's close enough to the wedding, but still far enough in advance for them to get their dresses and such.

View Quoted Comment Right right, that's a good point

I think no more than a year - otherwise you could find yourself in a situation like many people posting to these forums about having grown apart, how do I kick this person out as maid of honor, etc etc... I would wait until 8 months out or so. Unless it's a destination wedding or bachelorette party, then maybe closer to 10-12 months so people can plan accordingly and save up, if needed.

I asked mine the night I got engaged (which was roughly a year and 3 months away). However, my bridal party consisted of my sister, SIL, and 2 best friends in the world so I knew that these weren't people I would regret asking later, and there was no chance of drifting apart from them. If you know for certain who you will want, then I don't see any harm in asking now. If you'd rather wait until closer in time, that's fine too.

I would wait until about 6-8 months prior to the wedding. Otherwise you could end up regretting your choice and wish you had asked someone else.

I got engaged in September and am getting married the following September. I asked my bridesmaids by the end of October, so 11 months out! My bridesmaids all assumed they’d be in the wedding so it was just a formality thing.


I think it depends a lot on what things you’ll do between engagement and wedding! My year of engagement is filled with trips and showers and parties etc., but if were only expecting to pick out a dress for them and have them show up, asking them early isn’t as pressing!

Don't ask until maybe 7 months out. I asked too early and I regret it.

I would ask 9 months out the most and maybe 4 months out the least.

I asked mine in July of 2020. I'm getting married in September of 2021. I have zero regrets about asking them early. It's actually brought me closer to them. But they all knew before I asked. So 🤷

Do not ask anyone before 6 months before the wedding. There are countless posts with brides who asked people a year or more before and always results in disaster