How far is too far?

I don’t think 40 minutes is too far at all. We’ve driven up to an hour and a half for coworker’s weddings. You’re not going to find a venue that’s convenient for every single guest.

Not at all. Especially since it’s all in one house.

No, that is absolutely fine! Just look for accommodations near that venue for the oot guests that may want to spend the night

40 minutes totally isn’t too far. We’re having our wedding close to my FH’s hometown so all the guests from where we live now & my hometown will have to travel 1 1/2-2 1/2 hours!

I don't think the distance is bad at all. Ours is a little over an hour away, most everyone has to travel, even if it wouldbe in our hometown. Then the day after we're having a day after party at our house.

40-60 min? That's a piece of cake!

I live 30 minutes from my fiance currently. And I'm going to be moving to his town and driving 30 minutes to work every day.

You're way overthinking 40 minutes.

Our venue is about 45-60 min from our home and we didn't have any declines due to distance 🤷🏽‍♀️ I think your fine.

It is not a far ways to drive, but unless they can stay overnight in the area, people may not be drinking. You also want to consider the timing as if they have to drive home late. I would think they are staying though depending on who is invited to the rehearsal dinner.

Are the rehearsal dinner and ceremony/reception all in the same place (like same building)? You can do anything you want, but you may lose the excitement by having it all in the same place. I would hold the rehearsal dinner somewhere else.

Our venie would be about 45 minutes from our house as well. A lot of guests would be travelling anyway. I was worried about the distance at first too but I just shrugged it off. You're fine!

That's not bad. Our venue was an hour from us and 2 1/2 hours from everyone else. The venue was closer for our guest to attend than us picking a venue closer to our home, as we live further than 2 hours from our families.

Our planned venue is about 45-60 minutes away from our in town friends and family. At first I was looking into booking transportation but instead looked at what hotels were in the area. Found out 1 actually shuttles to the exact venue all the time and two others will shuttle for free within a 10 mile radius. We are going to encourage as many people as possible to treat themselves to a true night away and actually stay in a hotel afterwards. Then they can party a little harder and not get behind the wheel of a car or worry about a hour drive home.

You have now picked a “destination wedding”, that is anything that would require the bulk of people to drive 2hrs or more each way, and thus have to spend the night, becomes a destination.

I had the same issue I our area, trying to find FH elegant outdoor ceremony and my elegant indoor( non-barn, sorry) Reception, in Northern VA- for a resonable price. We looked at sooo many places and in the end went with one out of state- near our “out of state” families and where we had our first date. Making the choice was nerve wreaking and hard, but feels right.

I’d say if you have a spot that is exactly what you want and is farther away and available date/cost wise Book it.

I don’t think that is a bad drive at all. Its all in one so its not like you will be asking them to drive some where else. I would not decline over a 40 -60 minute drive

No, 40 minutes isn't far at all. Our venue is 1 hour and a half from where we currently live. I would do some research on the closest hotel and reserve a block of rooms. Include that information with the invitations, so those that may want to crash somewhere close after have the opportunity to do so.

Our venue is about a 50 minute drive from where guests will be staying in our hometown, the reason being because there is much more for guests to do and see in the city where we have reserved the room block at a hotel for them to stay. However we will try to book transportation (a shuttle bus) for guests so they have the choice not to drive themselves. So I don't think 40 minutes is too far!

40 minutes is not too much at all! Most of my FH family will be traveling 45 mins-1 hour for our ceremony and reception as well!

I think 40 minutes is totally fine for the ceremony and reception. I would maybe rethink having the rehearsal and dinner there just because that's a lot round trip in 2 days for those involved in the rehearsal but also not far enough to require a hotel.

40 minutes is totally fine! We're having our wedding in Virginia with guests coming from Upstate NY, CT, NC, SC, Hawaii and the majority from NJ - so all 3 hours plus. As the PPs mentioned, try finding a hotel block nearby for your out of town guests.

Did you and your FS decide what to do about the venue, McKayla? Are you going to book it?