How Have Your Ex-es Responded to Your Engagement/Marriage?

Only a couple were like "we didn't even get a fair shot! how can you marry him?!" and "how can you move on to marriage so quickly, I gave you everything" -.- my longest-term ex was happy for me-genuinely and we went to the beach together to celebrate moving on with our lives

@OTW...I'm not a whore...love it, but I understand where you're coming from.

@ECM - WOW! How ironic!

None of them have really said anything. my only past serious relationship texted me randomly and said he was happy for me, and i feel like he genuinely meant it. he's still with the same girl he started dating a couple weeks after we broke up over 2 years ago. so i'm sure he's happy.

one other one mentioned that every girl finds the guy she's going to marry after dating him... but i dated another guy i didn't marry after dating him so whatever. lol.

other than that, i don't care and they don't care.

One ex boyfriend I remained friends with congratulated me and even demanded an invite (he is not getting one, he gets angry when he's drunk, and even if he's genuinely happy about it now, I don't want to find out at my wedding that he's upset or something!)

Another ex congratulated me by text. After I thanked him he replied, "You know I have a girlfriend now, right?" I texted back, "I'm glad that you're happy!" And haven't heard from him since.

Another ex got married a few years ago, and two weeks before HIS wedding he called me and gave me the "what if" speech. When he saw I was engaged, he called me up and asked if I ever thought about "what could have been." I told him he needs to focus on his wife (and new baby!) and move on already!

I had a couple like the FB post when we got engaged. No issues on my part. His ex texted him a couple months after asking how his "gf" was. She knows we are engaged she was just a) being a bitch and b) trying to bait him. He said his fiancé was great (because he is naive) and she started digging for wedding details. After 5 years I shouldn't have to still deal with her

I don't have 'ex's' like that really (just a few people I dated) - if I do I have them on FB and no one said anything but then I have commented on who they are dating or getting married.

But I phoned my 1st husband's parents.

They sent us flowers and a card and promised to come to the wedding

My ex that I have had no contact with for 5 years friended me on facebook about 6 weeks ago. I was sitting there trying to decide if I should accept the request when he messages me. We had an hour conversation and caught up, we both apoligized for the things we did, and he congratulated me on my engagement. I accepted the request but other than what pops up each others newsfeeds, we don't interact. It was nice to finally get an apology, although I do question the timing.

FH is my first serious relationship, in the past were more "flings" than anything else. No one has really reacted and I dont expect them too.FH ex of over 8 years ago went bat crap crazy (they were together 10 years but he never proposed) saying it was meant to be her etc etc. He ended up having to get a restraining order

Oh boy. I was still friends w/ my ex I was with through college for about 6 years until shortly after I got engaged. He's met my FH. He saw on Facebook that we were engaged. A week or two after he texted me and told me that he couldn't talk to me anymore because of what has happened to him. Clearly wanting me to ask what happened so I just said ok? And he kept saying "you don't understand what happened" so I caved. And he says "when I saw you were engaged I went into cardiac arrest and I can't risk my health anymore watching you with him" OKAY ?? I said umm ok so I gave you a heart attack? "Yup"... Ok well I hope you feel better I'm sorry. So he texts me every few days after that for a month or so telling me I'm making an awful choice, I should be with him and give him another chance blah blah... Guess he recovered quickly

I ran into my ex-husband about 2 months ago... Since he gave me the whole "we should try it again" speech (even after years of divorce), I told him I was engaged now. His response " I am so disappointed in you." Oh well.... lets keep it moving. lol

Mines not about an ex boyfriend but about my ex best friend. He fb messaged me the Tuesday after our wedding saying I was the one that got away, he misses me, etc. Wtf?! He was my best friend for years and quit speaking to me 2.5 years ago because I wouldn't leave DH for him. We've always been friends on fb and he has my number and this is the first time he's contacted me since February of 2011. What did he think he was accomplishing by sending me that message??

I don't talk to my ex. Don't see my ex. And don't want to see/speak to my ex. Our relationship was toxic and getting out of it was the best thing I ever did for myself. My ex's dad comes into my parents restaurant every few months to put up blood drive flyers for the Lions/Lioness club and tries to get info out of one of the waitresses but that's about it.

I'm not sure who knows. I also don't give a shit what they think.

However, I did have a guy I was seeing (having sex with) for a year before I met FH. He called for the first 3 months to see if we were still together. lol

Most wished me well. One guy I used to live with was supposed to get married a few months before me, but ended up calling it off when he learned she was hiding over $50K in credit card debt from him. I'm sure my ex-husband knows that I got remarried recently (after being divirced from him for over 20 years), since his sister is friends with me on FB. He is already remarried to a woman with 6 kids - I never wanted any and he thought I would change my mind (among other reasons, mostly that he was a worthless douche). In fact, I hope she showed him a picture, since I've aged MUCH better than he has! And I did get the blubbering email from the guy I dated previous to DH, like you described, FutureMrsMcW. By the timestamp, guessing he was drunk. I broke it off because he was an alcoholic.

@Abbiell - from what I've experienced, most the of the Ex-es want attention as well as seem to believe that they have the "magic stick" to make you change your mind...child, please! I ain't with you for a reason and so much happier because of it.

I actually had an ex that I was with for 5 years, FB inbox me today to ask me to go to the movies...really? But when we were together, I had to dayum near beg for quality time because he worked/traveled so much, but now when you have free time you think of me...dude, go drink a Big Gulp of bleach please!

The funny thing is that I think if you were to ever tell any of the Ex-es, especially those pretending to beg for a second chance that you changed your mind and are not getting married and wanted to be with them, they'd suddenly no longer be interested. They only "pretend" to want you when you're with someone else.

Since TheFutureMrsMcWiliams started the meme thing... here is one that my best friend got me as a magnet

I have seen no response or heard any at all...they probably don't even know as none of them were really still in contact with my inner circle. If they do know, they're probably somewhere crying about it. Just saying

No comment, at all, whatsoever.

I think he's pretending that FH and I are not getting married. He's still mean, but he hasn't specifically mentioned the wedding.

My ex fiance is coming to the wedding as well as at least one of his ex girlfriends. I will have a hand full of ex boyfriends there as well, and he will have at least two people he has slept with there. LOL That all sounds really awful now that I'm saying it out loud. We are all friends, and get along. I'm not too worried about it.

My XH is probably more excited about it than I am and he's coming to the wedding with his fiance-if it wouldn't look so strange he would be my Man of Honor (he's one of my best friends) ... My ex boyfriend sends me messages about how much he misses me and how he shouldn't have let me go, blah blah blah!!