How high were/are your wedding shoes?

Not a big heel person plus I’m having a summer wedding so I’m just doing flats.
It’s going to be a long day lol don’t want the heels slowing me down.

No one saw my shoes since I had a floor length dress. I wore flat sandals and was comfortable almost all night (with that much standing, I'm sure my feet would've started to hurt regardless of what shoes I wore).

I love heels and plan on wearing 4-5 inch heels! Haven't found the exact shoes, but something like this.

My heels are about 4"/4.5". I definitely don't mind changing into different shoes for the reception. I'll have them ready after our first dance is over. They were just too gorgeous to pass up and goes perfect with my dress.

Do not go outside your comfort zone. You will be wearing these shoes for 5+ hours so make sure they are super comfortable. If you are not used to a certain height of heels, your wedding is not the time to practice. This also means trying shoes on in person is a must, as well as breaking them in at home, instead of buying a cute pair online and saying a prayer they fit.


Be aware that if you take them off to dance, etc, your dress will drag, you and guests will trip on the overhang. That is because the dress is altered to accommodate heels instead of barefoot.

I plan on wearing heels for the ceremony and pictures, then I'll change into some sort of flats probably slides.

I did for inch heels for the ceremony then changed into the same height wedges. I found some cute bridal show lace wedges from Nordstrom rack.

My heels are about 3 inches high.

I would go with whatever you are comfortable in for the evening. And keep in mind you will be altering your dress to fit the length of you in whatever shoe you choose. So if you choose a 5 inch heel for the ceremony, you will be altering the length of your dress to fit an additional 5 inches of height. If you then change into flats or a very short heel for the reception, you may be tripping over your dress all night.

3 inch heels followed by platform 2 inch platform sparkly keds. Once my dress is altered I don’t want it dragging on the ground and getting stopped on. Plus I think it just looks odd when it’s too long. The keds are great because they feel like a sneaker but have some height so my dress will barely drag

Hi Bonnie!


I’m doing high heels. (christian louboutin spikaqueen) they are about 4 inches high.
I want to feel sexy on my wedding day, and I plan to keep them on all night. I’m usually really good with heels so I’ll cross my fingers that I last. Lol

I don’t know how big my heels were, just pretty normal. I do NOT wear heels on the regular and haven't in many years. I wore them from the time I got dressed, so like 11:30, until we got to our reception, about 4:30. They hurt my feet so bad. My toes were numb. I took them off and couldn’t find the flip flops I brought. So, I went barefoot the rest of the night. No one really saw my feet, except maybe a here and there when i was in the dance floor. My toes hurt until Monday or Tuesday after. About 2 months later my toe nails fell off.


Do NOT wear something you are not comfortable in. It may not be worth it just to get some pretty pictures. Plus like I said they won’t really be seen, unless you have a short dress. Stick with what’s more comfortable especially if you don’t wear heels often.

I’m not much of a heel person. From what I’ve read in these forums and elsewhere, your shoes aren’t very visible under your gown and don’t often show in photos unless your gown is short. I opted for Tieks Ballet Flats for my wedding day. They are pricey but I will definitely wear them again as I wear their shoes daily.

I was toying with the idea of wearing heals for the ceremony & changing into flats or tennis shoes for the reception. Changed my mind & am doing tennis shoes for the whole thing. Figured why have the added expense of shoes when nobody’s going to see them & I’d only wear them for an hour.

I’m wearing these sneakers from David’s Bridal. They’re super comfortable which is what was most important for me personally. You will pretty much never see the shoes unless you’re wearing a short wedding gown, during the garter toss, and for pictures. I didn’t feel like being uncomfortable was worth it for just that.

I wore flats the whole time. I was comfortable the whole night and they were much cheaper than a pair of white heels. I think they were only $20. I had a ball gown so no one saw them anyway. Definitely go with what is comfortable.

I wore low wedge sandals because we were getting married outdoors and I didn't want to sink in the grass in a traditional heel. Additionally, I knew I would be on my feet for much of the day (we started outside pictures (so I was dressed and had my shoes on) at about 3:30 or 4) and H and I didn't get home until midnight - the only time I sat down was to eat dinner and when the photographer had us sit on the stairs in the house for pictures (we got married in a historic home). I wear all kinds of heels, regularly, and was very happy to have chosen something a little lower. As PPs have said - if you have your dress hemmed to heels, and then you change into flats, people will step on your dress (and you may as well). The last wedding we went to that happened, and it ripped the bride's dress.

My heels were about 3in. I surprisingly wore them all night but we didn’t have a dance floor because COVID so I wasn’t on my feet as much.

Not a heel person at all I am doing cowgirl boots so not much of a heel

I took some ballroom dance lessons a few years ago and plan to buy the same sort of shoes again - they are made for dancing so I know they’ll be comfortable!