How involved have your parents been in wedding planning?

My mom and mother in law to be are paying for my wedding so fortunately and unfortunately they get to be as involved as they want to be. Sometimes its really helpful because both my fiance and I are in school so we are really busy. But other times it can feel a little overbearing. I think its all just what you prefer!

My parents both came to see our venue before we put down a deposit. Other than that, they help when I ask for input (via email and phone calls because they don't live in the same state), but they haven't done much. My FMIL hasn't done much either. My FH is very close with his mom and she likes to call our wedding "our day". As in, his day, my day AND her day. That totally gets on my nerves. But so far, planning has been pretty smooth.

My mother has been extremely helpful. She doesn't throw a lot of things at me, but helps me with things I need help with like decor and dress shopping.

They are not too involved. I invited FMIL to look at the venue on the day FH and I booked it. I also invited her to go dress shopping. Other wise she's not too hands on. My dad thinks in crazy for planning this far ahead so he's not very hands on. My grandma however wants to know every detail and argue with my decisions. She even told me she wouldn't like my venue because it wasn't the one she wanted me to get married in. Then she saw my venue and had to admit that it is a beautiful venue and she is really impressed with it.

My mom doesn't have much to say about the wedding and FW's mom refuses to acknowledge that it's happening.

My mom is very hands on but she leaves it up to us to make the decisions. My MIL is in Germany so it's been a little harder for her to be in the know because of the time difference but we definitely ask her opinions and run things past her.

Both my parents and my FH's parents have been very supportive; they are quick to offer their opinion but ultimately understand that this is our wedding. However, we also make sure to involve them every step of the way and include them in all the group messages/spreadsheets.

My FMIL isn’t interested and clearly has an issue with it. After years of dating and what I thought was a nice relationship, I am surprised. FIL is ecstatic. My dad is his usual tell me what to do self. And my mom is nuts, I don’t share with her she will just make it about her needs

My mom helps a ton but knows her boundaries. My dad has been super helpful in assisting with DIY stuff for the wedding. FH's parents haven't really been involved.

My mom is very much about it being our day so it should be what we want, she has been more than happy to listen to me talk about it when I need to though. FMIL on the other hand made a lot of demands and drastically changed our relationship during planning because she wasn't paying but didn't understand that she didn't have a say. Her treatment of us during the wedding planning process was very hurtful. With 17 days until the wedding I'm just hoping we all get through the day in one piece.

My parents aren't really involved. I ask for help and don't get much in return. FH's parents have both passed on.

In the beginning my mom helped research venues, and she went with us to look at a few, she went to one dress appointment with me and has helped me gather addresses for save the dates and invitations but other than that she hasn't been that involved, which she feels guilty about. I told her not to worry. FMIL hasn't been involved at all.

My parents paid for our venue. They had quite a large number of required people for the guest list, and I couldn't really say too much about it because they're the ones paying for it.

My mom has given me lots of input and I've had to put my foot down on a few things lol

I'm glad to know my mom isn't the only one who is not involved with planning. She seems very uninterested saying it's not really her thing. It is a little disappointing. She did come with me to the my dress fittings. My FMIL is a saint and listens to my every word or complaint. She doesn't offer a solution or tell me how it should be. It's very nice. She's had a couple suggestions, but I think she realizes how headstrong I am and doesn't step on my toes.

My parents haven’t been helpful at all. It my FILs have been there every step of the way! I love having them involved

Both of our parents are very involved. It has been both a blessing and a curse sometimes, but I'm glad that they get to join in the experience with us, and I know they feel really privileged and honored that we let them help us with the wedding planning.

I took my dad to a wedding expo so he sees where some of the money will go.. and he asked the vendors many questions and prices and he seemed very interested in it.. my mother isn’t into it .. yet.. maybe my wedding is too far away still (it’s 10.05.19) .. but my fmil.. she’s too involved I don’t know how to tell her to just chill out. It’s as if she wants it her way and what I suggest for my own wedding wouldn’t work.. no matter what I come up with!

My parents have been completely involved because they're paying for about 95% of it. FH's parents are not involved at all, not contributing at all, and I don't mind.

I feel like it has generally brought me closer to my parents, and my FH and I closer to them as well. Our venue has a restaurant on the side, so we go together occasionally for brunch and dinner, to "sample" our menu.

My parents, especially my mom, have been pretty involved in wedding planning. My mom and I disagree on so many things - we have completely opposite tastes in almost everything - but it really has been a nice bonding experience overall. FH has a new job, and has been working a lot more hours than he did in the past, so I've gone to several appointments, like the food and cake tasting, with my parents instead. I'm pretty close with my parents, so it just felt like the natural thing to do.

FILs haven't been involved at all, apart from FMIL bombarding me with questions whenever I see her. They've already thrown/been involved in weddings for 4 of FH's 5 sisters and his 3 stepbrothers, so I think they're pretty much over weddings by this point.

My mom has somewhat been involved just because I ask her opinion and still live at home. I took her dress shopping, food tasting, and florist meeting. My dad could care less and will pretty much only show up because he's mandated to. My FIL's ask how wedding planning is going and I'll give details, they'll give opinions. Bottom line it's what my FH and I want so we decided to take some ideas from parents but squash others.