How involved have your parents been in wedding planning?

My mom has been pretty involved in planning. We asked her and my dad's opinion when we were deciding on a venue. I love to bounce ideas off my mom and when she disagrees or has a different opinion, she doesn't try and shove it down my throat. It's been really nice having her help plan. My dad is more of a just tell me when and where to show up and ill be there type of guy so he hasn't been too involved.

My FILs are completely uninvolved, which is 100% ok with us. FH isn't close to his parents so therefore, neither am I. They find out what we have done after the fact. I think it would have been an slightly unbearable experience if they were more involved because as it is, when we see them all they want to talk about is the wedding. Like they forget we have lives outside wedding planning.

My mom lives in TN (I'm in FL), I've talked to her about what I wanted and sent her pictures and she surprised me and sent me a package of a bunch of stuff that I was going to order. As for her input she doesn't really voice an opinion. My dad lives in CA and just yesterday he text me and said within the next month him and step mom are going to fly out and visit to talk about the wedding. He didn't really elaborate on what we would be talking about... so I'm a bit curious! Lol and my stepmom is making a lot of the wood work for the wedding that I asked for.

I feel like my mom & FMIL got closer during this planning process, they hang out for non wedding related things as well. His mom trys not to go to everything because she doesn’t want to overstep on the bond I have with my mom, I still appreciate their input because they both have been through this before & are willing to help when they can. The dads don’t plan but still help financially. My dad will drive down if he is physically needed for something but mainly just doesn’t want all us to stress. My FFIL has took on our honeymoon as his gift to us & has not told us anything except to invest in a passport. 😊

My mom is totally hands off and rarely asks about the planning which stinks, FMIL & FFIL are hands on and enjoy hearing and often ask about the details.

My mom yelled at our venue for me! So that was nice...

Our parents were not involved in our wedding planning. We planned our wedding ourselves and paid for it ourselves too.

My mother was basically not around for any planning at all until I moved the wedding date up. Now she's involved as much as I'll let her be. She tends to be pushy controlling and opinionated so she only gets little bits of information. I think her help has been semi useful, but I also think I would have rathered her have just stayed out of it. She ended up convincing me to have a full ceremony and reception wedding instead of just eloping, and I completely regret it. I would have much rather eloped but I've paid for most of the wedding now so there's no going back.

I havent spoken to my mother for 8yrs now. FH and I r in our 40s so we dont need nor want parental input. FMIL was very rude to me at first but we have been getting along nicely since the engagement. Even still she is not interested in our wedding details at all. She just wants to know where she needs to be and when.

My parents have not been very involved at all, but they live 5 hours away from me. My mom went dress shopping with me and wants to plan a shower there with my MOH.

My FMIL and FFIL insisted on helping us pay for the wedding. They live near us and even closer to our ceremony and reception sites. My FMIL has honestly been incredibly helpful throughout the entire process. She's booked a few vendors for me and is helping with some DIY projects. She and my FSIL (who's also a BM) are hosting a shower for me, and she is letting all of us girls get ready at their house on the day of.

My mom and dad have helped me A TON in planning my wedding. I live in Utah but having my wedding in NY (where they live) so they looked at venue, catering and stuff like that. Fmil and ffil have not really been interfering really but they also haven't really tried.

Honestly I don’t talk about the wedding plans with my parents. My mom paid for my dress so she went with me and we both fell in love with one. But everything else my FH and I are planning everything.

My parents honestly seem like they don’t care just another thing they have to be at. There not helping with anything, financially or supportive. They are to wrapped up in there life’s. They haven’t even asked how’s the planning going. When we first started the planning they acted very excited and said they were gonna pay for everything and then they ditched out two weeks later. My father also says he’s gonna put money in our account for the wedding but everytime it comes to the time when he says it’s gonna he makes up some excuse to why he can’t. When I try to talk to my mom about the wedding planning to keep her updated she’s just short and changes the subject. I wish they were more active in this. They have never been like this growing up they were involve with things and now. I have no idea what happened.

My mom is totally hands off. I invited her to the cake testing to try and involve her and she went. But overall, I think she's happy with the role of guest. She's excited about wearing a hat to the festivities. The only time I talk to her is if I have a specific problem that I need to talk over and help come to a solution.

My FFIL is totally hands off. He doesn't ask about the planning and has gone for his tux fitting.

FH and I are paying for everything ourselves and are making all decisions together. The advantage to the parents being hands off is that FH and I are able to make decisions that are true to us withhout having to worry about outside opinions.

My parents have been very involved and almost pushy for me to get things done lol, but they are paying for a lot of it.

My parents have been laid back but are also helping me with whatever I need. My mom is not pushy with her suggestions and is always telling me she’s there if I need help with any research. My father is paying for the wedding so ultimately I have to go through him when I find something just to get the final approval but he is getting me pretty much anything I want. It’s a little harder since he just moved to Texas and is now 11 hours away from me. My FMIL hasn’t hardly said anything to me about the wedding but I am not complaining about it because she can be very pushy and overly opinated. When I took her to look at dresses with me, she tried to get me to say yes to a dress I hated just because she liked it. So her involvement doesn’t bother me as much. (Though I hate to say it.)