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Natania
Savvy July 2017

How long are you waiting to have kids after marriage?

Natania, on July 15, 2017 at 8:44 AM

Posted in Married Life 214

My husband and I were discussing it and are thinking about 3-4 years. How about you?

My husband and I were discussing it and are thinking about 3-4 years. How about you?

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  • Alison
    Devoted November 2017
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    Right away if not before as I'll be 34 this year

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  • FutureFuji
    VIP September 2017
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    We're 26/27. FH wants to wait a few years and build up more dual income money first. I want to be a SAHM but I also make more so that's tough. Probably around when I'm 30.

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  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
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    We're not sure yet. I'm 31, he's 33. I have one son from previous relationship. We'd like to have a child, but we have to talk to my doctors ask sure it's ok. We'd like to try right away but it all depends. Smiley smile

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  • Sos0033
    VIP September 2017
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    We've booked all our "bucket list" trips for next year with the last and largest one ending on our 1 year anniversary. If everything goes according to plan, we'll start trying right after that.

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  • Erin
    Super October 2018
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    If it was up to my FH he would have knocked me up already! Lol I plan to at least have a year under my belt of marriage before we start to try for our first.

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  • xtine
    Dedicated August 2018
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    Hoping for a honeymoon baby!

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  • CoolKat
    Super October 2017
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    I always thought right away but I'm starting to think I want to wait a few years so I can cross things off my bucket list before motherhood

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  • Constance
    VIP October 2017
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    3-5 years. I want to have our first before I'm 30. I have some time.

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  • Cuervo
    Super January 2019
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    2-3 years.

    We really want children but have chosen to wait so we can fully enjoy our married life and travel, just the two of us lol.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2017
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    I really prefer to wait at least 2-3 years before having kids, but my finace is really set on having them right away.

    His best friend has already had two kids and most of our other friends are parents too, so I think he feels "left behind" in a way and has wanted kids for a while now. I told him under no circumstances would I have kids before marriage.

    Well, now we're getting married and he's holding me to it haha. I'm trying to convince him to wait until our house is done being built now though, since we currently live in 500sqft with a "second bedroom" that's the size of a closet. I'd be miserable with a baby in this house.

    I'm not SUPER opposed or anything, especially considering we're both 28 and I'm starting to feel like he is where I feel like our kids will have no friends because all our friends' kids are too old now. I just always had this image in my mind that we would travel and be a married couple for a bit before kids come in to change our lives.

    Edit: He wanted to start on our wedding night, but since our honeymoon is in New Zealand and we're not going till February so it will be summer there, I told him I absoluetely refuse to be 4 months pregnant/throwing up/miserable/etc on our god damn honeymoon. So it will have to at least wait until then Smiley tongue

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  • Tammy S.
    VIP August 2017
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    We are not planning to have children at all.

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  • FutureMrs.G
    VIP July 2017
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    We are planning a big move to Georgia in 2018, and we just decided last night were going to start trying right after we move! Eek, I'm so excited!

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  • Chris
    Expert November 2018
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    I'm not having children, but I can tell you my parents planned on 3-4 after marriage. I guess they got a little too hot for each other after the engagement because I came along, and the fabulous fall wedding they planned was moved to February because my mother didn't want to waddle down the aisle. :/

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  • Ashley
    Expert August 2017
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    We decided to give ourselves at least 1-2 years to enjoy the marriage life and then try.

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  • MrsC2B
    Expert December 2017
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    I just turned 32, and I am hoping that we won't wait longer than another year. FH agrees, but he really wants to buy a house before we have kids. Fortunately we are good at communicating and we have been discussing pros and cons of all possibilities available to us. Hopefully we will make a decision before too too long.

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  • Ashley
    Expert November 2017
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    Anywhere from 5-10 years from now lol. I want to get off of night shift, he wants student loans paid off and we both want to travel the world WITHOUT children. Weve got 2 fur babies that mean the world to me right now and they're enough Smiley smile

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  • Anne
    VIP October 2017
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    Probably a year? My birth control "expires" then, so I'll get it removed and we'll assess if we want to start trying or I'll go on the pill for awhile.

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  • Future Mrs. G
    VIP February 2018
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    Wedding night. I'll be 34 by time I get married and we both want kids yesterday.

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  • Johanna
    Expert October 2017
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    4-5 years. I'll be 25 when we get married and he will be 28. I want to travel and enjoy being married for a while and he has admitted that he still needs time to "grow up a little" haha which is totally fine with me. I would be okay if we didn't end up having any at least at this point but I know I would love one if we did too so we are just going to see where life takes us

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  • Terri
    Devoted September 2019
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    Since I'll be 40 when we get married and he'll be 41, we will be trying right away just in case in takes a little longer.

    Actually, my plan is to stop taking my bc pills about 2 months before the wedding so they'll be out of my system by the time we start really being rabbits! Lol

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