How long do you want to wait/did you wait to have kids after marriage?

Since I can't physically carry a child, we are adopting. When that is, no idea

We plan to start trying right away, but only because FH is turning 40 and has already been wanting us to have a baby for a couple of years lol. He already has two sons from his first marriage. Just also wanted to chime in on what you shared about your parents' ages...my parents had me young (21 & 23), and while they were "cool" young parents with lots of energy, we also struggled financially. A LOT. I know this wouldn't be true for all young couples depending on circumstances, but something to think about. Looking back on what my life was like a decade ago, I'm certainly glad I waited a while to develop myself as an adult before deciding to have kids. Whatever you choose is fine of course, just wanted to put another perspective out there.

We both want to have a savings account started with a nice chunk of change specifically for child expenses. Since we haven't started that, we're still off! We are still young (26 and 28) and have been together over 5 years. But we have so much we want to do before becoming parents. Our initial plan was to wait 2-3 years after marriage and it definitely feels like we need to push it further as we get older. Low to mid 30s is not too old to be a parent. We only want 1 or 2. I don't mind adopting, but DH likes the idea of having at least one blood child.

I was pregnant with my first at 20. If you are getting married I don't see that as being "to young" but just remember to enjoy being married and do all the things you and your FH want to do before having kids. Not that I regret my children in the slightest -- we just missed out on a lot of things as a couple because we had them so early. I think anytime is great as long as you've really enjoyed and did the things you wanted to do before kids

We're gonna start trying right away, we are both very excited about having children after the wedding.

My parents were 24 when they had me, married at 21, and growing up it has been awesome to have them be so active and involved. To be fair my dad owns our family business so they were well off enough to have no worries financially. FH want to have our first before he turns 30, he will be 28 when we get married. I say as long as you know you are in a good place financially, go for it within like a year or two

We've slightly been talking about it, but not in depth because we don't want kids for a while. I think we are going to recollect in 5 years after we get married. I want to travel a bit and enjoy married life together. I don't want to have to juggle having kids in that moment. Plus I want to be a lot more stable in our careers and be living in the place that we are going to be happy with for the long haul. And we definitely aren't there yet (well at least the living situation)

We plan to start trying right away. FH and I will both be 27. My parents had me young also (although a bit older than you) at 25. They were able to do so many fun things with me physically (i.e. cartwheels, running around, jump rope, etc.). By the time my brother came along when they were 32 they were too old and tired to do a lot of those things (their words...32 is still pretty young to me!). I'd like to be done having kids by 35 so that I can really enjoy certain things with them. This may not be an issue for everyone, but it is important to me.

I'll be married at 25, going to conceive when I'm 26 and he's 29.

We're going to be the "old parents". FH and I will both be 26 when we get married and want to wait several years before having children. There are lots of things we want to do first. So we'll most likely be at least 30. Besides, FH's older sister hasn't had kids yet and I want to be an aunt first! Haha

I want to start trying the night of the wedding. I'm currently in an internship program with the option of taking a graduate assistant position next year. I want to be able to take six months off to breast feed and stay at home with our child before going back to work, so the timing is best if we get pregnant ASAP after the wedding.

That's a year out though, so things may change by then.

I'll be 8 weeks at our wedding so we'll have baby 2 in June. We still plan to adopt after baby 2 is born. We have no idea how long that will take though.

When we get married, I'll be a few weeks shy of 28 and FH will be 31. We've talked about waiting a couple years before trying. My parents had my sister at 29 and me at 32, and I never felt like they were too old to keep up with us. Ideally I'd like about the same timing.

I have never imagined myself having kids young. One reason is finances, we want to have money saved before even thinking about it. And also l don't feel like I would be a good mother right now. There are several things I want to do and things within myself that I want to work on before kids. I just want to be the mother they deserve. Anyway, FH and I will have been together almost 4 years by the time of the wedding. And we have talked about waiting until I'm 29 and deciding then what we want to do (FH is 24 and I am 25 at the moment). Part of me says I should try and be in a position to start having kids before I turn 30, because there is a somewhat higher chance of breast cancer if you have your first child age 30+. This isn't something most women need to worry about, but my grandmother died of breast cancer. So, I guess I want to be cautious!

Sorry for the spiel! Long story short, we plan to wait around 4-5 more years.

We have been talking about trying this summer (one year of marriage). I will be 28, DH will be 30. I waffle back and forth about it sometimes, I am so busy with my job and wonder how I will have the time or energy to take care of a child! You hope everything goes well but then again I know multiple people, who are young and healthy, who have had miscarriages, stillbirths, have children with disabilities, etc. Breast feeding is painful and I worry about being unhappy with the way my body will change. Child care is so expensive. I also worry about not being able to travel once we have children, and not doing all the fun things we want to once kids come.

DH and I are both 22. We definitely want to have kids in our 20's but probably closer to the mid-20's to start. I went to Europe on a 2 week study abroad trip when I was 19. It changed my life, and I want to be able to share that with DH. We have an account and are saving up to go to Europe together in potentially 2018 to celebrate 10 years together (we started dating at 14). I'll be 24 at that point, so by the time we get back, hopefully we'll be in a place where I'm comfortable going off the pill.

I'm also getting married relatively young (23), because I want to be married quite a few years before having kids. I'm hoping if we decide to have kids around 30 that will give us plenty of time for us.

We got pregnant right after we had the wedding and unfortunately we miscarried. We were going to actually try vs. a happy surprise, nit we decided to wait until we have some $ in the bank and my husband has more work in whatever state we are living in. We want to pad the savings as well as keep my Short Term Disability eligibility up so I can get paid while being on maternity leave.

We would have been ok had we not had the miscarriage, but now since we are planning on being more financially set, its better to wait until we are both comfortable with the finances and stability. Plus, he hasn't been home in 3 months (travels for months at a time), so I want to spend some more married time with him before we decide to have kids.

That however doesn't stop me from being completely baby eager in my head! and I have a baby shower to go to this week! FML

* I am really excited about the shower but it doesn't help my baby crazy brain.

Stopped b/c 2 weeks ago.

We want kids pretty fast, we've done all those things you want to do before kids.

While I understand a million times over MsRozaLu's point, my parents were the opposite - wait until you have kids, have a career first, etc etc, and were in their late 30s when they had me and my sister. They're not exactly aging or ancient, but we want to have as much time with our children as humanly possible, so we'd rather start now. I'm 28, he's 31, so we're not that early!

@ m- sending good thoughts your way as you TTC!