How long to wait

I'm not sure of typical protocol but, you could do a thank you note for their card and attendance now, and say you look forward to the gift arriving and then send another after it arrives.

I would wait. I have one guest who did the same thing. It's been 2 months and I haven't gotten a gift. I don't really care if I get a gift. I didn't write her a thank you. I didn't write the other person who didn't give a gift or a card one either.

You do not write a thank you card unless it is for a gift, or a service. Hosts do not write thank you notes to guests, and hat is backwards. They accepted your hospitality. Ordinarily, all wedding guests are excused from writing the couple a thank you note for the party, because it is assumed they already gave a rather large gift. But anyone who gives no gift, actually owes you a thank you note for your providing an enjoyable event, meal, dancing, socializing in a nicely decorated setting. As host, you never say, and Thank you for coming, enjoying yourself, eating our nice food and drinking at our expense! Thank you notes are only for gifts, or services, including so done throwing a shower, or doing your flowers, whatever. You already said, we are happy to see you here at our wedding. If you really want, you can write a short letter about the wedding. But never on a thank you note format. Guests thank hosts for the party, and give wedding gifts ( bigger than the usual hostess gift.). Hosts only write thank yous for gifts. This is a very common misunderstanding on WW.

Definitely wait until you receive the gift to send the card!!!! Sending a “thanks for whatever you may be sending” card sends a slightly aggressive “we’re still waiting for this supposed gift” message. Wait until you receive the gift, and then you can properly thank them. The thank you upon receipt also helps tell them that you got it! So if they’re expecting a thank you, they could check in and realize the item was never received, and resolve the issue ....orrrr they forgot to send a gift and still haven’t and it’s best to let it lie, as a thank you for their impending gift sounds like asking them to actually send one.

I agree with PPs. Wait for the gift to arrive, then send a thank you

View Quoted Comment Thank you Judith! I wasn’t trying to imply that I would be thanking each of my guests for coming, I just wasn’t sure if I should send a generic “thank you so much for the gift” card or if I should wait.

View Quoted Comment Oh, no. Definitely don't. People will take it like a backhanded nudge, " so where is my present?"
Often people who open thank you notes, thank you for coming , get ticked off for the same reason. Since couples only get a thank you for a gift, not for attending ( traditionally) many take that to mean, thank you ..for nothing . Neither is a good thing. Wait and see.

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Same. We had 3 or 4 people tell us this same thing, and we have now been married for a year and we never received the gift lol. We don't care about the gifts and felt is was rude/awkward to follow up.