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Mrs.evans
VIP October 2022

How many brides have family members who try to or have taken over planning your day who else has this problem

Mrs.evans, on April 3, 2022 at 4:20 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 14
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Hi beautiful brides to be how many of you besides me have family members and friends who are telling you. What you are supposed to have or what you dont need your for you and your grooms day. I have a daughter who has never planned a wedding in a of her 25yrs life. Ever since that I made her my Maid or Honor she thinks that she can just run the shows and she is will not. Going to tell me what or shouldn't have on my wedding day. We have bumped heads alot through out this if planning process. Now she thinks that she can tell us how we should have other not have in our wedding. Oh I forgot to mention that we are her parents who are getting married. On many occasions I had to bring her back to reality about how much say that she has in this process. She has now embarrassed me on 4 separate occasions. Picking out what kind of floral arrangements, When we went to look at venues speaking over me ,At the Bridal Expo and my last Straw was when we went to speak with 2 potentials bakeries for our wedding cakes trying to speak for me. When I can perfectly can speak articulately on what I want to say. I had to pull her over to the side and to let her know that she will stand down to or when I asked her opinion. Not to speak over me.

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Latest activity by Mrs.evans, on April 4, 2022 at 10:08 PM
  • Ayanna
    Devoted November 2023
    Ayanna ·
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    I understand the frustration! She might just be excited & thinks she's helping. When my mom got married I was 17 and a bridesmaid. Though my approach then was to stay out of the way because I was underage & knew nothing about weddings. I do believe I'd now (24) be able to help a bit more. Maybe let her know that you appreciate her enthusiasm but to dial it down a few notches. Maybe give her something she can have more control over like the bridal shower or Bachelorette? Hope this helps!
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  • Mrs.evans
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    Hi Ayanne I have given her something to do is the bridal shower and bachelorette party along with my other Maid of honor. To focus on that yes I know that she is excited to and wants to see everything to go and look well. But she just still that she has all say. And I have told her this my wedding and you have to step back. Plus she lives with me so even if I don't ask her opinion she gives it and tells my event planner somethings and I am happy that my event planner calls to check finalize it with me. She is a Maid of honorzilla. Lol I'm trying to laugh and not spams out
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  • Ayanna
    Devoted November 2023
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    Ohhhh. I understand lol. My mom would have fired or demoted me lol. Whichever was better for me to get the hint🤣
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  • Mrs.evans
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    Yeah I 5 more months for this to be done. LolAnd I have thought about firing or demoting her. Try to see if she ready up a bit because the clock is ticking down. Trying to finish up and paying certain vendors. But she isn't making this stress free for me so from yesterday I just want her and my other bridal party to do the planning of that and leave this part to me and her dad.
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  • Ayanna
    Devoted November 2023
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    Do what you feel is necessary! You deserve to be as stress free as possible! Hope it all works out
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  • Mrs.evans
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    Th ankle you very much
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    No need to demote her. Just let her know her only role is to support you the day of and she can plan the bridal party. Then don’t include her on the trips or decisions only you & your partner want to make (venue, food, decor, etc).
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    We didn't experience this because we didn't include anyone in meetings or decisions. If your daughter can't handle not giving her opinion, just don't bring her with you.
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    Dedicated September 2023
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    Yes, I was also going to suggest just not bringing her on the visits to the vendors. I realize you probably thought it would be fun, but clearly, it's turning out to be stressful. So maybe just make the appointments without her, and go and make your decisions. Also, maybe tell your planner very clearly that you only want them working with you/your fiance. She may call or text them anyway, but they're a professional and will be able to handle focusing on you. Best of luck!

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  • Mrs.evans
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    Thank you Grace trust me I definitely agree with you there. And I had that talk with my daughter last night. And as far as the planner I most definitely told her that period.
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  • Mrs.evans
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    Thank you I had talk with her about all of this
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  • Mrs.evans
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    I talked with her and I know that she is excited because we are her parents that are getting married. But sometimes I didn't mind her coming and she drove because I have a injury and between the planner me and my future spouse everyone schedule is crazy so at times she's available. But I let her know about her behavior thank you for your advice
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  • Steph
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    Not 1 soul has tried this with me! I am a “don’t give me your opinion unless I ask” type of person. That being said, I have kept my mouth shut about most of my planning and have done everything myself because if something goes wrong, I only have myself to blame for it. I’ve asked opinions on a few things but that’s it. Ultimately I’m going to do whatever I want anyways. The only person who has a say so in anything is the boss man, because we are the ones paying for everything. I wish my daughter would try and speak for me… 😂
    On a serious note, I have to say that maybe she has so much input because you are HERS. I’m definitely like that with my mom, spouse and my sister. It is rude, but I think it is because I love them so much and I want them to have the best and be the best. So just take it as you are so loved.
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  • Mrs.evans
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    Yes lol Steph but now I let her know that just because you are our daughter but your behavior. Is not going to be tolerated anymore I know that you meaning my (daughter) that you are excited about all of this. But me and your father will make the decision on this. Now I find what the other reason is she is going to school for event planning so I said these will not be your trail and error. Thank you for that for that laugh
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