How many extra "safety guests" did you invite?

Alycia yes it is. If there are people that you would like to invite but can't unless someone declines, they are on the B list. It doesn't matter if you got a big legal pad and wrote B LIST at the top of it. They still weren't a first choice LOL

Ladycrystal no it's not. A few women joined our moms club after our guest list was made. I've become closer to 1, if I decides to add her at the lat minute that's not b-listing because I'd invite her regardless of declines. If I isn't invite her UNLESS someone declined that would be b-listin and rude

Sorry Amy that I actually care about not offending my guests and hosting them properly. What a terrible person I must be!

Then stop fucking posting senseless crap about/to me if you're tired of it

Alycia, are you paying for your wedding? and do you have a large family? my guess is no and no. i think you need to be a little more understanding of other people's situations. but you should probably let your friends know that they should definitely not invite you to their wedding, even if the space becomes available. i also think that the irony of you saying amy v has an attitude should be noted.

I only invited people that I really want there for the most part. There are people that I invited as courtesy. I have yet two only receive 1 couple decline. People I expected to not accept have been accepting. It's pretty much amazing considering it is on a Thursday! Im still waiting on about 1/3 for the RSVPs, so lets see what happens. I have my guest list at 136. Im hoping only 105-115 come. It's looking like its going to be closer to the higher side. So, I think you should invite you really want and if you get declines invite your B-list.

OHMYGOSH STOP. It's one thing to post your opinion it's another to shove it down peoples throats.... it's OKAY if you think you're 100% correct but others may not agree with you and that is okay also.

Everyone has heard this before numerous times and I think that was Amy's point her first post.

Tomato, Tomahto who cares what you call it. The bottom line is that there can sometimes be people who aren't on teh original 1st list who if space permits you can add others.

@ Laura I'm with you and my mindset is such that if you decline and then show up or if you don't respond to my RSVP request then you'd better show up with a seat and a sandwich.

@ Katie, it already sounds like you know what you want to do so go with your gut and do it.

Quite frankly, someone saying no is just as important as someone saying yes. Both responses require proper planning and money allotment. I can tell you right now that out of the 173 people on the my guest list, my 10 no's are going to be people's +1s they didn't use.

The wedding guest list world isn't pretty, and if you think everything can be upgraded, if there even is an upgrade, a week before, you are mistaken.

Actually yes we are paying for our wedding and yes I have a large family and there are friends we wanted to invite but couldn't. It sucks but that's life.

Lord another B list debate.... Ugh...

To the OP no I would not over invite. Everyone has opinions on B lists. (do a quick search they get heated) Just invite those you want and expect declines, people who say they will come to not come and some who won't respond to end up showing up.

I'm sending out 190 invites (with a plus one that puts me at 380 people)...when you all say I invited 120 does that mean people or the invites and you're expecting 240 people? I'm wondering if I need to add additional space to my venue site. Right now I'm counting enough for 180 but can go up...i just need to know sooner rather than later!