How many people came to your ceremony?

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You're right I didn't read it correctly, my apologies. Overall, you need to invite everyone to both parts, and we had 2 ppl out of ~200 who came to the reception and not the ceremony due to a timing conflict that they told us about. I would expect everyone to attend both.

I'm expecting all of the guests who attend my ceremony to attend my reception.

We invited 113 and 100 came. I have never not gone to a ceremony and only the reception. Usually everyone invited goes to both events.

I think you should plan for everyone to come to the ceremony that will be coming to the reception. I have never not been to both when invited to the wedding. I am not married yet but i invited 130 people, 102 RSVPs and 100 have confirmed their meals so far and we are 57 days from my wedding but everyone is coming to both the ceremony and reception

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Inviting 60 out of 130 to the ceremony is absolutely considered rude - you can only have a private and limited ceremony when the guest list is a tiny fraction of the reception list and limited to immediate family, max 15-20 people. Inviting only half of the people to the ceremony is very rude.

View Quoted Comment I’m not planning on inviting half the guests to the ceremony. My parents believe that only 60 or so from our guest list will attend the ceremony and do not think we should spend money on having a ceremony at a different location to where we originally planned. There is no picking and choosing of guests to attend here, thank you.

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I absolutely disagree. I have seen this done with 50 or so people, with a 150 person reception, many, many times. It isn't anyone else's business to dictate to another how many people is considered appropriate for them to invite to a private ceremony. There are people whose immediate family alone is larger than 20 people, and there are people whose families consider people like aunts/uncles/cousins "immediate" or "close" and would find it incredibly rude to exclude them.

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Yes, to your point - you are correct that your parents are incorrect. The only time I have seen someone "skip" the ceremony and only attend the reception was when they planned poorly and seriously just missed the ceremony due to being very late. And that was one couple out of a 120-person guest list.

I think it would probably be pretty hurtful for a guest to intentionally skip the ceremony, so I imagine most people would not do this. Bottom line: you are correct, there should be room for every person invited to the ceremony.

Think for yourself is there food at reception if so are you willing to pay to feed 130 people who didnt eat before the wedding.? Who's 🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑 for the wedding don't be a PEOPLE PLEASER.