How many people did you invite?

We're inviting 75 and I'm hoping all 75 accept because I really want all of them to be there. We picked our guest list so carefully and I love every person on our list!!

We're inviting 120 but only expecting 60 because it's in my home state and all of our friends would be coming from out of town.

Invited 70 and about 60 attended.

I thought I was the only one that secretly hoped some rsvp "no" lol

We are inviting 125, hoping 100-110 actually show

We are inviting about 90 but we know it will be a little less.

150 invited, 130 came!

We had 135 attend, invited 150.

Invited 144. Originally wanted a max of 120. The list got up to 166 and I started scaling back. Hoping only 120-130 show but will be perfectly fine with less.

We invited 80 people and so far with 70% rvsps returned (and I have a solid idea of what the other 30% will be) we are on track for 75 in attendance. Honestly though I was hoping for 68 but family members I never thought in a million years would make the effort to travel are using my wedding as a mini family reunion, so be it.

We have room for 50 family members & 10 friends....

No reply by a certain date & we will be inviting others that are on a waiting list to come in their place...these are people that would be coming to just the reception after dinner only or just to the ceremony, knowing that we have limited seating for dinner...I have talked to a lot of them, they are just waiting for a cancellation or no show so they can be there to fill the seat & share our special day...

There are many people who do not RSVP, I just delete them from the list...

EVERYONE that will have a seat will have a placecard...no placecard, no seat for dinner....no exceptions....if they can't be considerate enough to respond, I am not paying for their meal & exclude someone else that really wants to be there....family can be so rude, much more than friends...

Although you already have so many responses to your question, I wanted to add my experience because I was in the same boat as you, and I wanted to tell you how it worked out. Our venue allowed us to invite 112 (I know, an strange amount), we invited 120, we had exactly 102 ppl show. It was perfect. Out of the 120 invites, we got only several declines, and 2 couples who accepted didn't show last minute (although they accepted), due to family emergencies. I knew going into it that those several ppl were going to decline right from the get-go, they were extended family who have always had a jealousy toward my mom, and really disliked us, for no reasons, just kind of miserable people, but I invited them because I was inviting the other cousins/aunts/uncles. I was almost 100% sure they would decline, and they did. So, that is pretty much why I over-invited. Our venue coordinator told us right from day one to count on a 15% decline rate.

We're inviting 173... Yikes.

And that's after we made a bunch of cuts.

Inviting about 20, expect about 12. It's a destination wedding though.

Our venue is a minimum of 75 and we are struggling to reach that including plus ones for everyone! We both have very small families and do not have large social circles. I think when we made a draft guest list we reached 66 including all family, friends, and coworkers.

Including guests+vendors+us, our guest list is 183. I'm really hoping for 150. We have to spend a minimum of $8K and have already paid that (monthly payments = points!) It would be amazing if we only have to pay another $2-5k....

Invited 200 and had about 125 come, including kids. A good chunk of our guest list was from out of town since DH and I don't live by either of our families.

Faith, fyi, it's very rude to invite people to only one part of your wedding day. Also from a logistical perspective, do a reply by date as many people forget to do a task unless they have a due date. That's just human nature.

Faith, FYI, the reception includes dinner. So you want to invite your "friends" but you don't want them to be a part of your ceremony and you don't want to feed them? How nice of you.

We invited 61 and had room for 48. (6 tables of 8). Some were out of town and probably wouldn't attend but we were still sweating it! We had 47 accepts and 46 attended.

I normally say something about etiquette and rudeness when someone is doing something to make themselves out to be a complete asshat to their friends and family, but I think @Faith is doing such a monumental job in her rude intentions (while calling the very people she's being rude to, rude!) that no amount of wake up calls will get through.

@mna, agreed. This one's a lost cause.