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Ashley
Just Said Yes June 2019

How many people showed up that didn’t Rsvp?

Ashley, on May 8, 2019 at 12:50 AM Posted in Planning 0 9
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I am curious how many people showed to your wedding that did not RSVP? We invited 250 guests to our wedding and 100 people have still not rsvp’d (the deadline was Saturday). This is not including immediately family that we can assume will be coming anyway. I have already talked to a few people that didn’t respond and their answers have me a little freaked out! One said “RSVPs are a thing of the past and people don’t fill them out anymore because it’s hard to plan that far in advance” and another said “We were supposed to RSVP??” Even though there was an RSVP card with the deadline and an already stamped return envelope with the invitation. I plan on following up with these people over the next week, but 100 is a lot of no responses to get ahold of. My concern is that I will give the final number to the vendors and WAY more people will show up and there won’t be enough food. So I’m just wondering if anyone had people show up anyway even if they didn’t RSVP and how common it is for people to do that?

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Latest activity by MIWM, on May 14, 2019 at 8:32 AM
  • Nafisah
    Super May 2019
    Nafisah ·
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    I'm curious how my wedding is going to turn out with the number of declines we got. But my MOH got married a month ago and she had 10-15 people who RSVPd not show up. If you do get to reach out to everyone, and they make their decision or decide not to respond, you are no longer to ensure that theirs enough food for them. Is it a buffet style? And assigned seating? Those who didn't RSVP to my wedding, I sent a nice message letting them know that I attempted to reach out to them and the deadline has passed and I therefore cannot add them to the guest list.
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  • Rea
    Devoted November 2017
    Rea ·
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    I had a guest list of 120, table assignment place cards for the same excluding the 10 who declined. Well guess who shows...yes the 10 who declined however some who rsvp'd yes didn't show. The good thing is my caterer planned for extra food for this reason so it all washed out in the end so no food was wasted. Sometimes ppl just throw ettique(sp) out the window. Who wants to be there will be there.
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  • Becca
    Expert July 2019
    Becca ·
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    In a week I would reach out to each person to confirm. If they say they don't know because it is too far out, put them down as a maybe and just count them as a yes for now - you can always remove them later. However, give it at least a week as there can be mail issues. In addition, approach it nicely as their invite could have been lost in the mail in the first place! The last thing you want it to go about it aggressively then have them respond with "we never got it...". Good luck!

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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
    Melissa ·
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    I would definitely get to reaching out to every single person who did not RSVP and let them know that the deadline passed and that you need to provide numbers to your caterer and if you don’t have an answer by whatever date you will mark them as a no.
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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    I feel very bad for you! That is an absurd amount of people to contact. You should reach out to them and ask them for a decision. You can give them a specific date to reply by and tell them that if they don't respond, you will count them as a no. I think my caterers have enough entrees to serve like 2% over our final count or something like that. Your caterer will likely have some extra. I understand that everyone has different lifestyles. Some may not be able to plan that far in advance but that would be why you RSVP no. Seems simple enough to me.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    No one turned up that didn’t say they were coming, but we DID follow up with every guests we didn’t get an rsvp from
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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    Your friends/family/whoever are totally wrong. People absolutely still RSVP. I've never heard that RSVPing is a thing of the past...weird. Unfortunately you'll have to reach out to everyone you didn't hear from to get an accurate head count. We had one person not RSVP and show up, and it was the plus 1 of a guest. She was given a plus one, but she only RSVPed for herself. It wasn't a huge deal though. The guest did have to squeeze in at the table, but oh well.

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  • Nikita
    VIP April 2019
    Nikita ·
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    We only have 1 guest who didn't 'technically' RSVP. But we were pretty sure he was going to be there anyways so it wasn't a big deal. We just added him to the guest count when making our finial numbers.

    I will say, several people had to be reminded, but no one thought it was a 'thing of the past.'

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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
    MIWM ·
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    I have reached out 3 times to people that did not rsvp and they said they would and never did. So I'm done reaching out and they will not be counted

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