How Much Alone Time Is Healthy In a Marriage?

My FH and I talk all the time but we also live together. We both make time for ourselves, usually a few hours a week. He may go hang out with his cousins or friends. I got get massages alone, hair, pedicures alone. Sometimes I go eat dinner or brunch with my friends or even alone. Time alone helps ensure that you don't lose yourself in your partnership.

FH and I don't live together yet, but we see each other regularly. We like to give each other a few days for both of us to have alone time. After we're married and move in together, we're going to have time apart because of work, sporting events, etc!

View Quoted Comment ❤️ " Time alone helps ensure that you don't lose yourself in your partnership."

View Quoted Comment Thats a good idea because too much togetherness can seem smoothering.

I don’t think there’s one blanket answer. It depends on your level of introversion, your spouse’s level of introversion, your job, and a heap of other factors. “Me time” is vital!

My fiancé and I live together. We spend a lot of time together and a lot of time not together 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 there’s things we do regularly together and then stuff he does alone and then stuff I do alone. But it never seems like we are really apart as I know once I’m home he will be there. Sometimes if we both have been in the house for awhile and around each other we have what I call together alone time 😂 where are are still together at home or in the room and he plays video games, watches tv or whatever and I usually do something like come on here and read stuff.

View Quoted Comment You make a great point.

View Quoted Comment My husband and I also have a lot of together alone time.

This is very different in modern day as more and more couples are living together before marriage. I think whatever time allows. My FH works night shift, I work days. We see each other everyday but only talk maybe an hour or less total on the days he works either before I go to work or when I come home before he leaves. I enjoy my alone time, but I do tell him that the rare time he has off that us time should be a priority, not the same people he sees at work more than me or our other friends. If we go out together with friends that is fine. I think it's important not to be up each other's butts and have both mutual and individual hobbies/wants. I agree with Madison that sometimes my FH & I are home together but he plays video games or watches a show he likes (since he rarely gets to) and I'll be on my phone on youtube or something! I think after the wedding he is finally gonna lay up on the overtime and we will get more time together

View Quoted Comment You have such valid points.