How much do you pay each month to your wedding?

Tooo much money Lolol but we both say it’s OUR wedding and we want a very beautiful elegant wedding with our love ones. So it is what it Ian!

Usually payments to vendors are in installments or if they can develop a payment plan. So I don’t think that’s something you ask for monthly unless you can figure out a plan with your vendors

View Quoted Comment Well my coordinator, venue/food, dj and photographer say as long as they are paid before the wedding and they have the deposit they are good. Im still waiting on a quote from the florist for the decor of the gazebo.

You need to back up and if you haven’t already, establish a very specific budget and total amount that she is willing to contribute. That is the very first step. From there you can determine if she wants to simply pay specific deposits/bills as they come or give you a specific amount and have you determine where it goes. If she wants to pay things as they come up, I’d sit down with her to sort through the schedule of when each vendor needs what payment wise

Have the wedding you can afford.

View Quoted Comment We have a budget & she is paying for everything so I guess I just need to come up with a time line of what needs to be paid when

My FH and I put away $640 a month to our wedding fund. I took our total budget and divided it by how many paychecks we have until a month before the wedding. We are paying for the wedding ourselves so we just transfer the money right in to our "Wedding Fund" savings account.

We do what we can. My fiance is a realtor, so paychecks are not weekly or bi weekly. We've decided if we need to take out a small loan in the end to finish paying off a few things, we are okay with that. We would never take more than $2,000 because we would be in over our heads at that point. However, I know some brides that have recently taken out $20,000 loans to help pay for their weddings. It's up to you guys and what you feel comfortable with.

FH and I put a little over 700 a month so 340ish a piece a month into our wedding savings account.

If it's not outlined in your contract, don't hesitate to ask them to do payments in a timeline you're comfortable with. We had 19 months to save so this is a little easier for us. But our florist is basically wanting month payments from February - June. Some just want final payments the week of. They'll typically work with you.

What did your mom mean when she said you had to cut back? Since she helped you out with a lot of bills does she still want to pay for the wedding? I would check with her. We priced out what we wanted and then adjusted to fit in our budget.

We were pretty strategic in the beginning and we asked our vendors if we could do payment plans with our deposits since we were booking most of our vendors in the span of one month (our date was pretty popular so we had to act fast if we wanted our dream vendors). We just didn’t want to drop close to $20k in deposits in 4 weeks. Most let us extend the deposit payments to be paid within 3 months.


We had a 15-month engagement and planned to pay our vendors little by little every month throughout the year so that by the wedding it would be a small balance... but we didn’t. Lol.
Most of our final payments were due 2-6 weeks before our wedding. So that last month leading up to our day, we had to pay around $80k in final payments. If we had to do it all over again, we definitely would have stuck to the plan of monthly just because seeing all that money leave our bank account at once was frightening and we definitely had that “holy crap, what have we done” moment. Haha if it came out in small monthly increments, I don’t think we wouldn’t had such of a sticker shock.
Most vendors are willing to work with you on payment plans so don’t be afraid to ask!

View Quoted Comment Yeah Idk what she meant by it really.. she just went to go look at houses.. she is going to have to move.. so she is looking about 5 hours away.. im gonna set up a book with due dates and give it to her.. she has never been married.. so its all new to us.. she is also a fly by the seat of your pants type of person and im a very organized planning freak so lol

Honestly I would say once you get all of the numbers for what you need down, sit down with your mother and go over it with her. Let her know that your vendors are okay with just having a down payment as long as everything is paid for by the wedding. Since your mother has agreed to help with funding the wedding, this could be her big chunk of helping. From there, I would maybe try saving with your future spouse that way not everything is on your mom. It seems like things are coming out more expensive than she thought it would and she may not be able to fund the full wedding by herself and she may not know how to tell you.

For my wedding, my husband and I didn't have financial help from any family members and paid it all on our own. To make sure we had everything we wanted, we prioritized the most important things to us. We made a list of things that we wanted and would not budge on and then decided either where to cut back, what we would choose differently that was a little cheaper and that's also how I decided what I would DIY.