How much input did your parents have on the guest list?

Well I made a rough copy of who I thought would be invited and then showed my mom and she gave me her input and FH did the same thing. My mommom asked me to add her 2 cousins she wanted there so I did that too. It was easy.

None it's our day so we are inviting who we want.

Little to none. we did invite a couple of my parent's friends because they are also family friends (as in I have known them pretty much my whole life)

for the most part we asked our parent's for family names but drew the line where we wanted to.

My daughter and her husband to be decided to invite only people that really mattered in their lives. If we only see you at funerals or family reunions every other year you did not make the cut. Also, very few work associates were included. My husband and I let them decide on their guest list because it's their day. If folks are offended, I'm okay with that. They kept the list to 100 adults only.

Our parents had none. My mother wanted nothing to do with the guest list from the jump. She has always been of the mind that the couple should have 100% control. I think it's probably because my grandmother hijacked her wedding and made her feel unimportant, so my mom is doing her best to not do the same to me.

My fiance's family has had very little input, in fact, his father has had not opinions. His mother, on the other hand, did get a little pushy when she found out he didn't want to invite his oldest sister or her kids. She kept pushing the issue for weeks until he firmly stated that it wasn't going to happen and she needed to let go.

A little.

His dad provided us with a list of 100 people and said it's half of who he wanted to invite. FH and I were unimpressed! So we started a list with our siblings, our parents, their siblings (our aunts and uncles), their kids (our cousins). (his dad's list got cut to 30 based on that). Then we added our closest friends. Next thing we knew the guest list was 180 people. Then we shared with parents and there were a few "you forgot" or "I know they aren't family but can you include these friends". List jumped to 200. And that was the end of it.

Zero percent!!! They are not paying for my wedding, not one cent of contribution. Therefore, it was my FS and I’s choice.

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I'm glad that your mother learned from her wedding and is doing her best not to do what her mother did to her to you. That's very sweet. How many people did you end up inviting?

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The final guest count came to 60. We wanted a very old fashioned, intimate wedding. We were also adamant about only inviting people we are super close to. My determination process was, "If I wouldn't invite them to an intimate family holiday dinner, I shouldn't invite them to my wedding."

Sadly none. FH and I have both lost our parents. The guest list is totally up to us

Pretty much none. We asked his parents if they wanted us to add anyone and they said it wasn't needed. I don't have any parents, so no need to worry there.

My parents are super chill with who we are inviting because they know that we’re at least inviting family members, my dad game me two couples that him and my mom would like there but they said to only invite if it’s within our means. fH’s Mom is another story: she’s more of the “they invited us to theirs so we have to invite them to yours” and “we’ll, we can’t invite these people without these others” so she invited 10 of her own friends and then reminded me that The Irish relatives (8 of them) and the British relatives (6) may come with or without an invitation. So that’s an extra 24 we weren’t planning on.

No no no. Heck no. They aren't contributing funds so no contributing input unless it's asked for.

None bc it's not their wedding