How much is too much for a bachelorette trip?

I would decline. If you can't celebrate locally under $100per person without lodging, then it's too expensive. Everyone invited needs to be aware of costs before plans are set in stone and places are booked.

Yes, that’s crazy. Unless they know for certain everyone can comfortably afford it. Can you express concerns to the MOH/other BMs?!

Ummm yes. I would not have booked a trip for mine and my fiancé’s co bach parties if everyone was not aware of the amount of money we were all spending. It’s just rude, specially for people who might have trouble spending that much extra money on something unexpected

My friends and I are spending more for mine. I think it’s just about what each friend can afford and if any of the other girls are willing to help pay what the others can’t. As ling as you can afford it, it won’t be too much. For me that price is very reasonable.

However, I would have spoken to the group before booking so we can discuss affordability unless I was okay with not being reimbursed.

Some friend circles spend a lot, others don’t, so the actual cost is not so much the problem for me. The issue I see is that you guys weren’t aware of the cost before it was booked. Everybody should be on the same page cost wise before anything gets booked.

I think that's over the top, especially if it doesn't even include food, drinks, decorations...on top of asking/expecting people to take that many days off work.

It's over the top for some people, but not others depending on their financial stability. For 4 nights, that isn't bad IF I knew about it and was given the time to save up. The MOH should've gotten the ok from everyone before booking the place. If people decline because of the cost, then what? The people that do go have to pay more? That's ridiculous in my eyes.

Unless everyone agreed to it beforehand (and sounds like that did not happen) it is absolutely over the top. What makes people think they can book an expensive trip without checking if people have the money AND the time off work?

I think it depends on your crowd! It should have definitely been discussed beforehand to figure out what everyone was comfortable spending. That would be a little much for my bridal party to agree to, for sure!

View Quoted Comment It just boggles my mind, the outfits that she wants us to wear haven’t even been brought up if WE have to buy these (multiple) T-shirts, the food, and of course pocket money, everything, for a vacation. And of course there’s the mentality of “go poor or go home” which is crazy. This year has been tough on a lot of people. Just nuts.

She definitely should be running prices by everyone before booking anything. There is no way I would agree to spend $700 on just an Airbnb and travel. It sounds like the MOH needs to be put in her place.

View Quoted Comment As long as I can afford it doesn’t mean it’s not a lot. I can afford a lot of things, but there’s definitely a wall one hits and me and another friend are not exactly happy about this for just airfare and a place to stay.

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Oh gosh, the $700 will likely just be the tip of the iceberg.

Has she already booked this trip? Surely you aren't the only bridesmaid who think it's a little outrageous! If you haven't already, reach out to another bridesmaid and confirm that you're not the only one and then go to the MOH and you guys can let her know it's too much for ya'll! This trip sounds like it's going to cost more than our honeymoon LOL

View Quoted Comment I’m not the only one who thinks this luckily.

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Put your foot down with the other bridesmaids and let her know you will not be contributing.

Where is the party? While I could afford that, it's not how I would want to use my vacation days and, in light of Covid, have no desire to travel by plane to a destination that would still have restrictions.

I don't necessarily think that that amount is crazy for a destination bachelorette...but the part that IS crazy is this person beginning to plan without consulting the bridesmaids on their budgets and what they're comfortable spending. The discussion about budget needs to come first, before anything is planned. She shouldn't even be looking at Airbnbs or considering particular destinations until she knows how much each person is able and willing to spend. The fact that she already booked it without consulting you is just plain nuts. I would decline.

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I agree with Anais!

Thats insane!! I work a job where if i don't work i don’t get paid. So anything more than $50 is a hard “no way!!!” from me!!!