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How much is too much for Bachelorette?

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Sayra, on March 14, 2022 at 2:40 PM

Hi All, I'm planning my bachelorette party (yes I know the MOH is suppose to do that) and I want to go to Wine Country California. Half of my bridesmaids live in San Francisco and would not be paying for flights only stay and food. I did the math and between flights (for those of us out of state)...

Hi All,

I'm planning my bachelorette party (yes I know the MOH is suppose to do that) and I want to go to Wine Country California. Half of my bridesmaids live in San Francisco and would not be paying for flights only stay and food. I did the math and between flights (for those of us out of state) and stay it will probably be about $1000 per person. My question is, is this too much to ask for from my bridesmaids?

I do want to clarify that while it's customary that the bride doesn't pay for some stuff, I intend on fully financing my way through the bachelorette. Also, ALL of my bridesmaids make over $130k annual salary and have no children or debt. I'm a very understanding person and If someone can't make it I will not kick them out of the bridal party, but I would be hurt if they don't go because they go on vacation all the time (at least 4 times a year) and we are all super close.

I'm a being too pretentious?

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Just Said Yes December 2022
Benjamin · on April 5, 2022 at 1:27 AM
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According to my experience, a fair amount for bachelorette would be about $200-250 per person. However some stores might package things differently. So it would be better to check with the store before you buy the items to make sure that you are not paying too much.
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Just Said Yes September 2022
Natalie · on April 5, 2022 at 2:34 PM
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Hello,
My bachelorette party will also be in the Santa Rosa area in California Although I haven't been part of the planning process (my bridal party is amazing), I just found out that my girls are paying around $1000 to fly, stay and get around to some wine tasting. Now, it gave me a lot of stress/anxiety to hear that my bridal party was paying this much to celebrate ME, however, they have had open conversations about what's reasonable and what isn't.
I don't blame you for questioning the amount, because I did too. But ultimately those that are invited will determine if it's within their budget; and if it's not, no hard feelings. Just know your crowd and make the decision based on majority vote.
Don't let the guilt get to you!
I hope you have a blast!
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