How necessary is Garter/bouquet toss?

I don't think they are necessary! I'm getting a toss bouquet so I can keep mine and my garter isn't special to me so I don't mind giving it away. Usually the guy doesn't take it with him anyway. BUT if I was at a wedding without them, I wouldn't care!

Definitely not necessary. I will say that the garter removal makes me cringe like all heck. But you definitely do not need to go through with any of these traditions.

Heck no! I completely agree, and frankly I see no reason to "single-out" the already "single" wedding guests. We are skipping both of these outmoded traditions.

View Quoted Comment Glad I’m not the only one feeling that way!!!

I haven't seen either toss done 8n years. Just skip them, no one will care.

Another reason to fee “salty” — I’ve seen guests basically tear apart the bridal bouquet in their efforts to grab it. What a waste of a hundreds of dollars bouquet 😭

We aren't doing them either. I ALWAYS HATED the toss, and would make every attempt to NOT go up or stand in the back in when I forced up. Besides, on our guest list, I think theres maybe 3 single people in total. Definitely NOT necessarily at all.

Not everyone does them anymore. As someone who was single for a long time, I was glad when the tradition got skipped.

Definitely skip. 100%. I hate the bouquet toss as a guest.

I don't think anyone will notice too much. If they do, oh well! It's your wedding. If it won't be fun for you or your hubby I really don't see a point in putting yourself through it.

Not necessary. We're not doing either.

I’m surprised at how many people are agreeing that they are doing neither — it seems that every wedding I’ve been to has done both. I haven’t been to that many weddings, though.

We are not doing either! The last three weddings have all done them, but I have zero interest in doing it at our wedding. Plus, if you stop the dancing for those "activities," it really kills the party mood. Our DOC asked if we were planning to do it and was relieved when we said no.

Not necessary at all. We aren't doing either.

Not doing it - I hate how people feel put on the spot with this. We have maybe 4 single ladies and 6 single guys at our wedding.

Most people are tossing this tradition!

I'm not doing either. I never enjoyed having to go out and try to catch a bouquet, and I've always found the garter toss to be tacky and highly embarrassing. I always dreaded it when thinking about my wedding and finally decided to do away with it cause neither myself nor my FH wants to do that in front of people.

If you don't want them, do away with them. It's becoming quite common!

They are not necessary at all. It is just personal preference. I'm not doing either one. I personally find the garter toss weird and tacky. The bouquet toss them s just unnecessary and really isn't anything to miss IMO.

Echoing PPs here! It’s definitely not necessary and we aren’t doing it either. Most of our friends aren’t single so there’s no need to! I am thinking of giving my bouquet to the couple who has been together the longest, though.

Oh, I'm surprised so many of you are skipping this tradition but I'm glad that is the case! I was planning to do both. I don't care much for the garter so don't mind giving that away. However, I do care about my bouquet. It was never my intention to throw my own bouquet because I like flowers so definitely want to keep mine. I planning to throw one of my bridesmaids'. Now that I think about it, probably best to throw a cheaper in case they all want to keep theirs. Maybe get one from the deli, hmm, got me thinking!

I like the idea of an anniversary dance and giving the bouquet to the couple who’s been married the longest. But I don’t want it to be mine or my bridesmaids’ bouquets. Maybe I’ll ask my florist to bring one cheap one for this.