How old were you when you got married or how old will you be she you get married?

We will be 31, we were 30 when he proposed

View Quoted Comment The discussion about kids should happen prior to marriage. I have seen marriages fall apart because it wasn't discussed, one party ultimately wanted kids and the other didn't and there was a lot of resentment

I will be 37 and he will be 45. This is my first marriage and his second. We've been together for 2 years and will be together for 3.5 when we get married. When you're older, you know what you're looking for, you've been with enough people to know what you will and wont put up with in a relationship. You've had time to get to know what you want out of life and you can find someone with similar goals.

There is so much growth that happens in your 20s. As you gain more life experience your maturity develops, so that is a very individual process. Depending on which scientist you ask, people's brains dont develop fully until somewhere between 20 and 30, with women developing faster than men. The divorce rate tends to be higher the younger you are when you marry mostly due to this and for financial reasons. But statistics dont make the person.

I was single from 20-31. I casually dated, but didn't tolerate any nonsense because I made the personal choice to wait for a relationship until I had a career that I loved and was making enough money to support myself and any future kids with my sole income potential in case life doesnt go as planned. Some things have and others haven't. But I know that we will be together forever because he's the best human I know and he's 45 and won't change the core of who he is at this point.

I was recently asked to speak to a group of students from my under grad alma matter. Over the informal lunch part, some graduating students were talking about being pressured to get engaged and they wanted my thoughts. I said unless you are 100% sure, take your 20's for self discovery. You can do it if you have a great partner, but if you aren't sure, what's the rush in continuing to date for awhile while you figure out your priorities? You don't have to have all the answers now, but there should at least be a tasting menu.

I'll be 28 and he will be 26.
I'm 26 and they asked me about prom dresses too 🙄 I think that's supposed to be a half arsed compliment.
Does age really matter? In my opinion yes. But also there are people who do more living in 22 years than people who are 32, a lot depends on the person. 🤷

View Quoted Comment I'm going to repeat, do NOT get married if you do not agree on kids! That's one of the biggest classic mistakes! That should be discussed prior to being married, and in my opinion before your even engaged. It's a huge deal and you shouldn't treat it flippantly.

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We've discussed it at length and we have a mutual agreement. It will all work out the way God intends and we are okay with whatever that may be.

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I understand this and it's been discussed. I only said he was on the fence. I never stated we didn't agree or disagree. I just was mentioning women's biological clock. We would rather have the time to make that decision to have children together than be rushed by this biological clock was my point.

View Quoted Comment On fence is not an agreement! It's yes or no. And you need the yes or no before you get into any other details. You're gambling more with on the fence than you are with biology.

Both 32 when I proposed. By the time we marry, we will both be 36/37.

I will turn 28, 10 days after the wedding and he will be 29 already

View Quoted Comment You have 12 years between now and 35 when your eggs become "geriatric" and the recent advice I got was to try to have your first by 37, so 14 years for you. You have plenty of time.

How will you feel and what will you do if you are 34 and husband is still on the fence?

I am 26 and he is 32, we'll be married in two months.

I think it's different for everyone. My sister got married last summer at 22. I definitely would not have been ready for marriage then! I'm 28 now, and FH & I will both be 29 when we get married. Even though I envisioned getting married sooner than this when I was a kid, I'm grateful for the time I've had living alone in an apartment and now my house, and am really ready!

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Exactly, plenty of time. But why would I want to live those 14 years unmarried to the love of my life? My love for him won't change whether we have kids or not. It's not a deal breaker for me. It's not like all these other relationships where one of us just has to have kids and the other despises kids, I would have never stayed if that were the case. If it's honestly not a big deal to either of us, I'm not sure why we have to decide at 24/26 if we want children or not. What if we both want children when we get married, then after years of marriage, one of us decided otherwise? What happens in those situations? People change their minds often, so it would be a never ending game of waiting. If we are both happy with our decision on the topic, I don't see why this is an issue. Like I said earlier, everything will work out the way God intends, so I have no worries.

We will both be 22! I don't think age necessarily matters as long as you are both mature enough for such a serious commitment.

FH will be 28 on our wedding day and I turn 27 five days before. He proposed when I was 24 and he was 25 after 8.5 years together. We are getting married on our 11 year anniversary.

I agree with a PP that you should be financially independent before you get married, but I don't really think the age matters. Even though I've been with FH for 10 years, I'm SO GLAD we haven't gotten married before this. We've really had the chance to grow at our own pace, question things that need questioning, make up our minds about issues/things that are important to us, etc. We took a year break when we were 18/19 (after 3 years of dating, around the time I graduated high school) and it's honestly the best thing to ever happen to us.

We both will be 29

I will be 21 and as will my FH. I’ve always thought, especially being told in my family, that you know when you know.

View Quoted Comment I'm definitely not saying you shouldn't get married. I never said that. And trust me, my eggs are geriatric and I'm still on the fence and sort of ambivalent about it, though I'm well aware I'm running out of time.

I asked the question because I was trying to determine how you would handle a situation where you're married and he says when you're 34 that he doesn't want them. Would you get divorced? I have no experience in that area because I haven't been married before. It's probably an unfair question because it's probably unpredictable.

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry if I came off rude to answering your question, I didn't mean it that way.

I personally would not get divorced over that due to the fact that it's not a deal breaker for me. You're definitely right, it is very unpredictable. My FH's mom and dad got married even though his mom didn't want kids and his dad did. They ended up with one child and they are both happy as can be, still married after 28 years. Every relationship is different and those couples will work through agreements and disagreements in their own way. It's unfortunate for women that we have a timeline in which we have to make a decision like that.