How to ask little brother to be a groomsmen?

I think just sit down and talk to him about it. We asked my 14 year old son (he'll also be 15 at the wedding) if he wanted to be a groomsman in the wedding and he asked what that entails and we just let him know that it was his choice, we love him no matter what and won't be upset if he decided not to and he could take time to think about it. Eventually he let us know he would prefer to just stick to walking me down the aisle because he is an introvert and he doesn't want to stand up where everyone can see him and he thought it would be awkward for him since all the other groomsmen have known my FH for most of his life and are close in age to FH, while my son would be the only teen in our wedding.

The 'groomsman proposal' doesn't have to be a hollywood-style production,or a youtube/instagram-worthy moment. it can be as casual or as elaborate as you and FH want.

But because you're not getting married untill may 2023, you shouldn't ask more than 8-10 months away.

I would wait on all of that until at least next fall. Nice of you to think of asking him though, how cool!

Thank you for your input! However, I am focusing more on the how and not when I ask him. Just curious on ideas on how to ask him

Thank you for the advice!

My FH asked my brother to be one of his groomsmen and he just asked when we were all having dinner together. I think he said something along the lines of "...so we've got a wedding coming up... wanna be in it?" because they're both super laid back like that (he asked his best man if he wanted to come to our wedding and be the person standing closest to him 😂)

I think it's most important that he asks in a way that reflects their normal relationship. If they get deep and sentimental then he should make a bigger deal in asking. If they're super chill and constantly joke around, then have him ask in a goofier manner.

Depends on the person I think. If the kid is shy or introverted or self- conscious, I would ask him casually but tell him its cool if he doesn't want to as well. If hes like my son, who's personality is as big as the world, and loves attention, make more of a production out of the ask, as you pretty much know the answer!

Hi. Could you take him to his favourite place to eat and make it special by asking him there? Or take him to a special event that he loves like a baseball game and then a meal so that you have a day to remember and then ask him? Something like that might make him feel really special as you've gone all out for him